Every person has a unique erotic language, a way their body, heart, and imagination respond to pleasure.

Just like love languages, Erotic Blueprints® – a framework developed by sexologist Jaiya – help you understand how you are wired for arousal, intimacy, and erotic connection.

Knowing your erotic blueprint can transform your pleasure, improve communication with partners, and open doors to experiences you didn’t even know were possible.

At Sensuali, we believe pleasure is a skill and self-knowledge is the first step toward mastering it.

Knowing your Erotic Blueprint helps you to:

  • Understand your turn-ons and turn-offs

  • Communicate with partners without shame

  • Ask for exactly what you want

  • Avoid misunderstandings

  • Bring more pleasure, confidence, and play into your sexuality

  • Choose experiences that actually match your erotic wiring

Once you know your Erotic Blueprint, you can choose experiences that expand your pleasure in the most aligned way.

At Sensuali, every practitioner, from tantra massage therapists to shibari artists, dominatrices, cuddling guides, intimacy coaches, sensual masseurs offers a doorway into a new erotic world.

Because pleasure is not something you “figure out alone.”
It is something you explore and learn with curiosity and presence.

 

Know your Erotic Blueprints®: Our short quiz

Take our short quiz to lift the veil on your very own erotic language

For each question, choose the option that feels most true for you.

This is not a test, there are no right or wrong answers. Most people identify with more than one blueprint, with one or two dominant energies.

Don’t overthink, go with the first sensation in your body and don’t read the results until you’ve finished the questionnaire!

 

1. What turns you on the fastest?

A. Eye contact, breath, anticipation… the moment before the touch
B. Warm oil on skin, soft fabrics, music, a beautiful atmosphere
C. Nudity, kissing, direct sexual touch
D. Power dynamics, spanking, ropes, taboo fantasies
E. A mix of everything… layers, variety, creativity

 

2. What’s your ideal way to be touched?

A. Hovering hands, teasing fingertips, barely-there touch
B. Slow massage, full-body caresses, sensual textures
C. Firm, direct touch on erotic zones
D. Impact play, restraints, intensity, contrasts
E. A combination: soft, strong, sensual, kinky… I want it all

 

3. What completely kills your desire?

A. Rushing, too much intensity too soon
B. A bad vibe: bad lighting, bad smell, bad music
C. Complicated build-ups, too much talking
D. Feeling judged or not taken seriously in my desires
E. Repetition, doing the same thing over and over

 

4. Which fantasy feels closest to your erotic style?

A. A slow ritual with breathwork, connection, and anticipation
B. A sensual bath, oil massage, candlelight, bodies melting
C. A passionate kiss that leads straight to sex
D. Being tied, dominated, or exploring a delicious taboo
E. A full sensory journey: candles, ropes, deep sex, role-play… all of it

 

5. How do you prefer to build arousal?

A. Slowly, I need energy to rise first
B. Through the senses and ambiance
C. Quickly, I’m ready when I’m turned on
D. Through tension, intensity, or psychological play
E. Through change, variety, and stacking sensations

 

6. In an intimate moment, what do you crave most?

A. Connection, presence, energy
B. Touch, sensual pleasure, relaxation
C. Sex, orgasm, direct pleasure
D. Intensity, surrender, power exchange
E. Expansion, creativity, transformation

 

7. Which sentence sounds like you?

A. “Tease me until I can’t breathe.”
B. “Touch me everywhere… slowly.”
C. “Just take your clothes off.”
D. “Tie me up or take control.”
E. “Surprise me. Always.”

 

Your Erotic Blueprint Results

Mostly A’s: The Energetic Erotic Blueprint

Turned on by tease, anticipation, space & subtlety.

Energetic types are aroused by what is not yet happening: the breath before the touch, the eyes meeting, the mystery.

They feel everything deeply and can be overwhelmed if stimulation is too direct.

Sensuali Experiences for Energetics:

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  • Breathwork & energetic orgasm workshops

  • Slow sensual massage

  • Cuddle therapy

  • Erotic rituals & eye-gazing experiences

 

Mostly B’s: The Sensual Erotic Blueprint

Turned on by the senses: touch, sound, scent, beauty, rhythm.

Sensuals crave full-body pleasure. They love texture, ambiance, warm oils, soft fabrics, music, temperature play…
For them, pleasure is an art form.

Sensuali Experiences for Sensuals:

  • Somatic pleasure coaching

  • Tantra massage

  • Sensual dinners

  • Multi-sensory play sessions

  • Tantric Shibari

 

Mostly C’s: The Sexual Erotic Blueprint

Turned on by nudity, genitals, orgasms, and direct sexual stimulation.

For Sexuals, pleasure is simple, clear, and physical. They love things straightforward and are easily aroused without needing buildup or atmosphere.

Sensuali Experiences for Sexuals:

  • Erotic education for couples

  • Professional sex coaching

  • Temple nights and sex parties

  • Porn literacy workshops

  • Fantasy exploration

 

Mostly D’s: The Kinky Blueprint

Turned on by taboo, intensity, power, or unconventional sensations.

Kinky types fall into two categories:

Psychological Kinky: turned on by power dynamics, dominance, submission, role-play, emotional intensity, mind games.

Sensation Kinky: turned on by spanking, rope, impact play, cold/hot play, restraints, strong contrasts.

Sensuali Experiences for Kinkies:

  • Shibari sessions

  • BDSM coaching

  • Kinks & Fantasy exploration

  • Dominance sessions

  • Impact play & sensation play

 

Turned on by everything: the erotic gourmand.

Shapeshifters have the capacity to feel eroticism in every blueprint. They thrive on variety, creativity, and expansion.

Sensuali Experiences for Shapeshifters:

  • Multi-sensory journeys

  • Pleasure mapping

  • Long tantric rituals

  • Play parties with curated intimacy zones

  • Coaching focused on expanding erotic capacity

Your Erotic Blueprint is a doorway to more pleasure and understanding of each other.

Most of us are a blend of several blueprints, evolving with time, experiences, and relationships. Knowing your dominant erotic language allows you to meet yourself and your partners with more compassion, clarity, and curiosity.

Whether you crave subtle energy, sensual touch, direct sex, delicious intensity, or a full spectrum of sensations, your desires are valid.

At Sensuali, we invite you to explore your Erotic Blueprints® through guided experiences with trusted professionals because pleasure deepens when it’s met with presence, consent, and intention. Explore all sensual intimacy experiences.

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Pauline Marie-Antoinette

Pauline Marie-Antoinette

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Pauline is a poetry writer, performer, experience creator, and intimacy and kinks workshop facilitator. She believes in the power of arts and creativity to be profound vehicles for change and loves to empower people to free their inner artist and turn sensuality into a real art form. Her solo-show, "An Erotic Poetry Odyssey" is an invitation to deepen intimacy, explore conscious kinks while challenging societal taboos. Pauline designs experiences for couples, retreats and workshops in Berlin and around the world!

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