'My story from Indian lawyer, to wild sex coach is a real head-turner at dinners.' Meet sex and intimacy coach, Haneen Kahn, guiding you to turn your sex life around and watch the rest of your life follow suit.
‘I WAS SUCH A GOOD GIRL (and not the naughty fun kind).‘
Haneen Kahn learnt firsthand how sex can liberate you, not only in the realms intimacy, but in all aspects of your life.
This epiphany, which enabled her to dismiss societal expectations and start living authentically led her become a sex and intimacy coach. Today she helps others see the power of sex as a catalyst for a new lease of life.
1:1 Sex & Intimacy Coaching (My clients often come to me for support around their dating, poly, intimate life, conflict & communication goals). A group programme to help liberate people in sex, so they can feel more ease, pleasure & confidence in the bedroom.
What turns you on?
A pot of loose leaf green tea.
What was your journey into this world?
Haneen Kahn.
Would you believe, I used to be a lawyer?! 😱🤭 There I was cracking inappropriate sex stories at the office. 👩🏻💼💼
I was in a monogamous relationship, with a happy regimented life in London…… Until I had a devastating breakup. 💔 After that – I couldn’t shake the feeling of being trapped. I was kinda done with doing “what was expected of me”. Whether it was faking pleasure during sex, picking monogamy because that was the default, being hyper attuned to others, or picking a career that was highly approved of.
I WAS SUCH A GOOD GIRL (and not the naughty fun kind). Until. That pattern became boring to me. I began challenging relationship paradigms and “sexperimenting” to find my true self-expression. I organised play parties, tried polyamory, indulged in so much casual sex…
It was LIBERATING. So many layers of shame gradually shedding away. Fast forward 7 years, I am now a relationship anarchist. I am committed to 100% authenticity and play. I am committed to honouring my body. And I have to thank sex for that. 🙏🏼 Sex helped me get in touch with my deepest desires, my no, my pleasure, my ability to take up space, my ability to communicate my needs.
It was a powerful catalyst. At the same time, I experienced a shift in my social and work life. Because how I show up in the bedroom, is how I show up in life. So I’ve made it my life mission to empower people to do the very same.
Haneen Kahn.
What do the first 60 minutes of your day look like?
I wake up, usually around 8am. My biggest kryptonite is checking my phone first thing but THANK GOD I have culled this habit. 😅🥷🏻 I now get 10 mins of sunlight in my eyes, while doing a little bit of yin yang breathing and stretching my neck & shoulders. I now have a high-protein, low-carb breakfast (this has been a game-changer for my energy, as much as I miss my banana porridge).
I’ll send a few Whatsapp texts, while I take my supplements and get ready for the GYM. Woo! Not long ago, I was nomadic and didn’t touch a single weight – so going back to the gym is something I’m so proud of. (It was haaaaard).
Why do you do what you do?
I feel so at home in my mission. When I support people to radically love themselves, welcome their insecurities, have the courage to ask for what they truly want & celebrate their sexuality…. it feels like a revolution.
A revolution where people are freed from conformity, from smallness. I’ve been in that trapped place before. Former Indian lawyer, trying to fit into all the boxes, get everything RIGHT……always seeking for approval.
Sex was my messy experimental place where I found a sense of freedom & permission outside of that cage. It took time, but it’s where I removed all expectations & invisible chains. I wish this for everyone. The world WANTS you to play big, to be fully you. Making a difference in people’s relationships is so much bigger than just “great sex”. It’s a new lease on life.
Haneen Kahn.
What is an unexpected pleasure you discovered in your work?
There’s a sweet softness in supporting people come into their power. I feel so much universality in our stories – which gives me a great deal of compassion for all of us in pain.
It’s also become utterly normal for me to launch into a conversation about sexual fantasies with a stranger, from the get-go. It makes life so much fun. I am also surprised by how even in my darkest woes…..coaching feels so in FLOW. It gives me a huge amount of energy. I feel so lucky.
What should more people know about your work?
Haneen Kahn.
Firstly, I have a very playful & role-play based way of coaching . I like diving right into the heart of the emotional experience, and practicing the very things that feel scary – but in a way that has you feel very held & stretched at the same time.
I use erotic energy & my connection to my body to provide live feedback during the session. I support you to stay connected to your present body experience the whole way through the session…. so that you can notice & trust those precious signals in everyday life.
Secondly, this work is so much more than good sex. It will impact your work life, your relationship to anger, your capacity to be truly seen. I am excited to journey with you!
Thirdly, it’s nowhere near as intimidating as you think!
Haneen Kahn.
What’s your superpower?
I’ve been told so many times now that I can’t ignore this…everyone tells me how surprised they are to feel SO at ease around the topic of sex, when I am in the room, which also translates to feeling more comfortable in their body, and with touch! Maybe it’s the fact that I don’t strive for sexy perfection. In fact I embrace all the messy, chaotic, silly, squishy flavours of being.
We love vices. What’s yours?
OMG WHATSAPP. I hate it and love it. I love getting to hear from people I love – but it’s so addictive to my ADHD brain. It interferes with my work focus often.
Who are your sensual inspirations?
I’m a huge fan of Stacy Ellis, Elaine Yonge, and Fanny Behrens. All of them are female facilitators that do powerful inner-transformation work. They all embody a strength & softness that I feel is so sexy & inspiring.
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
Haneen Kahn
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Haneen Khan is a lawyer (gasp!) turned sex & intimacy coach. She brings a theatrical twist to her work with Internal Family Systems Therapy - and is dedicated to helping people feel alive & playful in their sex and dating life by helping them to connect to what they TRULY want (in the moment) and feel so damn worthy of asking. Haneen is the creator of a sex & intimacy card deck with Scenario Cards. She also offers 1:1 coaching journeys together with her signature group programme: the Sex Homework Society. Haneen is your resident sexpert, flirting queen, and communication nerd.
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