The last time Sensuali chatted with Wise and Manly aka Drew, we asked him where he saw himself in 5 years time. He said:

Somewhere in South America…on a beach…in a house that I might even own, chilling out, taking some spicy photos, and later on having some sort of moonlight sex ritual orgy?! Yeah, that’s the dream.

Not 5 years, but 5 months down the line, and Drew is indeed on a beach, in Mexico (close enough), chilling out, taking spicy pics, and very likely having moonlight sex ritual orgies. Dreams really do come true. 

Drew is a Libra- charismatic and chaotic, a stellar combo. He’s an Essex boy who has spent years in London, meaning that he possesses all of the coolness of the Hackney crowd, but with an actual personality to go with it (there I said it!). He is well regarded as a content creator and sexuality coach, known for his work on helping people embrace and accept their sexuality. He especially focuses on his own experience of navigating bisexuality as a man.

We schedule in a catchup via the ole Google Meets and there begins our convo, broken up by moments of self-aware giggling and shitty wifi from both ends:

 

Hey Wise and Manly. What’s your mission?

I want to help other people love themselves. That might sound basic, but do you realise how many people are actually uncomfortable with themselves? I just want to spread the message that your sexuality is your greatest power. We all have both masculinity and femininity inside of us, but the majority of people shy away from that fact. It’s like, if you want to run around and wear tights, why is that so bad? Most people think it is, which is what holds them back. Once you liberate yourself sexually, that’s when you become your most authentic self.

We hear you have new projects on the horizon.

Oh yeah! I’m starting an online self-love course on Patreon. So you can subscribe to it, and we can do journaling exercises, mediations- all of the good stuff.

I recently did my first ever workshop with Pinky Promise, the amazing self-love collective who put on these really cool sensual parties. I did this amazing workshop with them on embracing vulnerability. It was amazing to hold space for people in that way. So that’s what kick-started my new course.

 

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Is your sexuality still evolving?

100%.  There’s a lot of things I still want to try.

I want more threesomes, more exploration of my submissive side…I love getting tied up!

 

What’s your fave self-love technique?

Journaling. Growing up I’ve had a really bad dialogue with myself. In my head I would be like, ‘you’re so fucking stupid’ or like, ‘I hate myself’. I think the dialogue we create with ourselves is so often negative, and we’re not even aware of it fully because our inside thoughts with ourselves are so constant and subtle. Journaling is such a good way to make your subconscious dialogue with yourself more conscious- you become more aware of your own thoughts. Then you read back and track your internal progress too. It’s really cool.

 

What are the masculine and feminine parts of yourself that you love?

That’s hard to answer because what is masculine and what is feminine can be different to everyone. I would say:

My good femininity= my freedom of expression, my being artistic, my fluidity/lack of rigidity.

My good masculinity= my being assertive and taking control of situations, my raw, primal, rugged sort of vibe. 

 

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When you watch your content back, how does it make you feel?

Sometimes I have an out of body experience watching it back. It’s a process of me understanding myself. I see my different reasons for making content at different stages. It started sexually driven and about a place to be expressive and provocative, then it became about being in celebration of sexuality and just trying to normalise conversation around it. I definitely feel the most comfortable and confident I’ve ever felt right now.

 

Do you think TikTok has helped to normalise conversations around sexuality?

Growing up in the late 2000s, I couldn’t find anyone who resembled myself, in the sense of being bisexual and stuff- it was really hard to find that and be a part of conversations around that. Whilst TikToks not perfect, we are privileged to live in a time where the algorithm makes it so easy to find people that are like yourself. It’s easy to find refuge in relatable people and be involved in conversations that make you feel less alone.

 

Do you think there’s room for more progression in sex positive community?

I think that the community is amazing.  Especially the smaller grass-fed communities that spring up are so full of love. I love the  more intimate sex parties too.

Next year I really want to get into more sensual play like water play and oil play where you rub against each other in oils. I want to go into those sorts of sex-positive spaces where I can be completely naked covered in oil. I’m veering more towards that sensual sort of stuff over the sex-sex, let’s get fisted kind of vibe. 

 

Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

I still want to be on a beach! I want to have a community where we make fires and run around them naked and have multiple relationships (free lurv) and make shell bracelets and eat coconuts! I see myself being quite nomadic, travelling around living in loads of different places, and of course doing my sexuality workshops! That’s the dream, and dreams really do come true

 

Check out Drew aka Wise and Manly on TikTok. 

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Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.


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