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Valentine Blue
Lisboa
Sex coaching, erotic freedom & intimacy beyond couplehood.
1 service, 1 event
About me
Stop waiting to be chosen: start choosing yourself.
I’m Valentine Blue (yes, like my hair!): your Solo Sex Coach and playful guide to erotic freedom. I work with curious, unconventional humans who are done putting themselves last and want to explore sex, intimacy and relationships beyond traditional norms.
For the past decade, I’ve been navigating sex-positive spaces, working in sexual health and harm reduction, between shelters and brothels, supporting people in reclaiming their bodies, their FUCK YES, and their autonomy.
From immersive workshops to 1:1 coaching, my approach blends coaching, erotic embodiment, and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) to create spaces where you can explore your sensuality without performance, pressure or predefined roles (and always with a sprinkle of fun).
I don’t teach you how to be desirable.
I guide you back to yourself, so everything else becomes a choice.
If you’re ready to live, love, and fuck differently - on purpose - you’re already an OddBird. Welcome to the Flock.
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Experiences I offer
The Nest - A Playful Connection Event for Curious Solos
From $10 In-person
1:1 sex coaching
From €111 Online & In-person
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Sex coaching is not about teaching people how to have orgasms. It´s not only reserved for couples, and it´s not only for people who have "problems in the bedroom". Sex coaching is practical, forward-focused support for your sexuality, intimacy, and relationship with yourself. People come to sex coaching when they want to: ✅ feel more connected to their body and pleasure ✅ stop living on autopilot or in their head ✅ explore sexuality beyond shame, societal conditioning and performance ✅ build intimacy that feels authentic, joyful, and self-directed ✅ relate to themselves and others with more honesty and agency This work is about how you experience yourself. Sex may be part of the conversation: so may power, fear, turn-on, boundaries, identity, confidence, pleasure and choice. You stay in the drivers seat: my role as a coach is to guide, challenge, reflect and support you as we build a sexuality and intimate life that actually fits you.
Coaching and therapy are different containers with different intentions. Therapy often focuses on healing the past and can involve long-term clinical frameworks. Coaching focuses on actively changing your lived experience now and how to orient yourself toward the future. Therapy is about understanding why something happened. Coaching is about asking what you want instead, what blocks that, and what you are willing to try, feel, or practice to get there. It shifts you from the mind and into the body. Sex coaching does not diagnose or treat mental health conditions. My work is trauma-informed, however, if something comes up that requires therapy, I will always say so and refer you accordingly. Many people do both, and they work beautifully together.
Sex coaching and sex work can look close from the outside because they both engage with sexuality, desire, bodies and intimacy, but they are not the same practice. I work with sexuality, pleasure, sexual "energy" and embodiment: I do not provide sexual services. There is no sexual touch, no sexual interaction, no 1:1 nudity, and no erotic performance between me and my clients. EVER. The work happens in conversation, awareness and lived integration, not sexual acts. I have worked alongside sex workers and within sexual health spaces for many years. I deeply respect sex work and strongly support sex workers’ rights: and that is precisely why I do not appropriate that identity. Working with sexuality does not automatically make someone a sex worker, and respecting sex work means naming that difference clearly.
In some sessions or group containers, nudity may be invited when it serves a clear intention: symbolic release or deconditioning shame. Nudity is NEVER required: it is always optional and explicitely consented to. You remain fully in control of your level of participation: consent is ongoing and can be changed at any time. For online sessions, cameras can be turned away or adjusted whenever needed. In certain group or live containers, nudity may also be present, including from me as a facilitator, when this has been clearly framed and consented to in advance. Nudity here is not performative. It is not about being watched, evaluated or eroticized. It is used as a tool for reconnection with the body.
Some of my work involves guiding clients into self-pleasure or self-touch practices as a way to explore Self-Devotion. I will only guide you verbally: the practice is done by you, for you. There is no mutual sexual activity and no sexual touch between me and clients. Self pleasure in this context isn´t about arousal for someone else: it is a practice of self-connection and empowerment.
Correction: you may not be having partnered sex, but you could be having solo sex. Or you could engage in intimate behaviours, feel arousal, or simply connect with your pleasure in a broader sense. Sex coaching is not dependent on having a partner. In fact, solo work can be incredibly powerful for building self-trust, erotic autonomy and clarity before or regardless of relationships. Your sexuality belongs to you, not to your relationship status or your body count (whatever the fuck that means).
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