Tell us a bit about your background (age, sexual orientation, gender).
I’m a 25 year old queer woman who for the most part has sex with men.
When did you realize your proclivity for exhibitionism?
I think it started when I dated a guy who was into group sex in my early twenties. He would take me to sex parties and I would find it very hot having a bunch of people watching us fuck. One time we went to this super sketch sex club, where my partner and I were definitely one of the cuter couples there.
There was this room with all these beds and everybody was kind of just looking around sheepishly at one another, waiting for someone to make the first move. I looked at my partner, and said “Let’s give them a show.” We made our way to the bed, stripped down our clothes and started fucking, as 15 or so people looked on.
Eventually, other couples started hooking up. I remember there were some really gross middle aged men staring at me. For some reason, that was a huge turn on. It was almost like this, “Ya you can look, but you can’t touch. Know your place, peasant” kind of thing.
I haven’t had many group sex experiences since then, mostly just because I’m scared of STDS but I definitely am into touching myself while a partner watches or fucking a guy in front of another guy — you know cuckhold stuff. I’m also very into having sex outside.
Where do you think your love of exhibitionism stems from?
I think a lot of it stems from the need for validation. I had major body issues growing up, so there’s something really gratifying about being adored. I also feel like I wasn’t hugged enough as a child, so I definitely have that “Love me, hug me, pay attention to me” complex — for better or for worse.
Even though I’m still self conscious about my body at times, I’ve always felt pretty comfortable being naked. I remember my college boyfriend made a comment to me about that once. He was like “I think your insecure girl thing is just a ploy for attention because you are way too comfortable being naked to have body issues.” Looking back, I think he was just jealous because when I would get drunk, I would take off my clothes and get super flirty and touchy with his friends haha.
I really don’t get why Americans are so uptight about nudity. I think having extended family members who live abroad and who I would spend holidays with and a mom who had no issue walking around naked in front of me despite her own body issues, normalized nudity in a way that went against the norm of American culture.
Have you ever had sex in public?
Many times. I’ve done it in cars, stairwells, church playgrounds, parks – you name it. I also love casually flashing my partners in public. It’s always the straight men who are most shocked, like “Oh my god you can’t do that, put your tits away!” I’m just like, “You do know it’s totally legal to have my tits out?” I think my favorite thing is riding a bike commando in a dress through the Hasidic part of Brooklyn and flashing sexually repressed, religious men.
Obviously I won’t expose myself if there are kids around but it’s so fun to fuck with these guys because they don’t know how to react. I see it as an expression of my pussy power. The fact that I can freeze a guy in his tracks just by spreading my legs apart for a two seconds is fucking hilarious to me. Maybe I’m a total sicko. I don’t know.
It’s funny because I think of myself as being really insecure about my body but compared to basically all other American women I know, I am way more comfortable being naked or fucking in front of others. I guess funny is the wrong word to use. It’s really actually pretty sad how common it is for women to hate their bodies.
Has your exhibitionism ever gotten you in trouble?
Not like real trouble. There was this one time I was on a Zoom call for work where like all 50 people who worked at my company were on. My roommate who is equally-pro tits out as I am came up behind my computer screen, not realizing I had my camera on. When we realized what had happened we started cracking up. My boss messaged me about it but wasn’t mad because he knew it was an honest mistake. Aside from that, I’ve mostly just had people tell me to be more respectful of others. Like I’ll be standing near the window totally naked and they will be like, “Dude! I have neighbors. Close the curtains.”
Another time I was hanging out topless on the stoop outside my ex-boyfriend’s apartment. Later that day his roommate came up to me and was like, “The woman across the street who has young children saw you today and was super uncomfortable. Please don’t go topless outside.” I was a little embarrassed that I was getting called out but more than anything, I felt sad for the women because of how brainwashed she must have been to see the female breast as offensive. There’s literally nothing more natural!
I guess overall, my philosophy is, “I’m only gonna be this hot for a few more years. I might as well flaunt it while I got it.”
Where do you draw the line with your exhibitionist games?
I mean obviously I’m not tryna get arrested for public indecency and I’m also not trying to traumatize kids or anyone for that matter. So if I am having sex outside especially during the day, I make sure there’s no one around so that the risk of being caught in the act is minimal.
But honestly just knowing that someone could walk by at any moment and catch me in the act is such a turn on for me. I feel like some of my best orgasms have been achieved that way.
Are you into the flip side of exhibitionism aka voyeurism?
I guess I don’t have quite as much experience with that..just watching other couples in orgy type situations. It’s fun but definitely doesn’t do it for me in the same way that being the exibitionist does. What can I say, I’m an attention whore.
Has your love for exhibitionism ever translated to you making online content?
I’ve done my fair share of naked photoshoots and sex tapes but the whole web cam or OnlyFans thing seems like such a time commitment. When I was younger, I totally had this fantasy about being a porn star but then I realized that if I wanted to become a lawyer or have a real person job someday, it probably wasn’t worth the risk to have x-rated videos of me floating around online. Once it’s up there, it’s up there forever, ya know?
What’s your wildest exhibitionist adventure?
One time I masturbated in a park. I was by myself and had time to kill. I covered my privates with my backpack and made sure I was far away from the playground area. It was the middle of the day and there were tons of people around. I came like three times.
What’s your biggest exhibitionist fantasy?
I’ve always wanted to get gang banged. Preferably next to a waterfall. There’s just something so primal about the thought of a bunch of guys taking turns fucking me, bukakke style. The idea of being wanted by so many men at once is also just really hot to me.
Any closing thoughts?
I think people should learn to be more comfortable with their naked bodies, especially women. There’s so much shame surrounding bodies and sex. I’m not saying I don’t struggle with those issues myself but I really, truly think that all bodies are beautiful and that if people spent more time being naked in front of others, they would realize how empowering it can be.