This week I sat down with my friend and ex-lover, Rahim. While he is decidedly too basic for me – I just don’t see myself settling down with a finance bro long-term, as much as I wish I could so I never had to worry about money again – I can’t deny his objective hotness, sexual prowess, and kindness. 

Though it’s been over three years since our little dalliance, he still hits me up from time to time in hopes that I’ll be down to have a threesome or fuck some other guy while he watches. Lately, he’s really been on my case about this whole cuckold thing. So I decided to take the opportunity to psychoanalyze him a bit and he was more than happy to oblige. 

In return, I’ve agreed to help him attract more kinky creative types than he’s currently connecting with. “The girls you’re looking for aren’t impressed by the boat and watch pictures bro!” I tease, as I look through the photos he’s sent for me to help curate his dating profile. “You have so much going for you! You are hot, financially successful, and nice as hell. That’s a rare combo. Let’s highlight these things and leave out the douche factor,” I say. “Sounds like a plan,” he replies.  

Real quick before I dive into the interview, I want to talk about the origin of the word “cuckold.” I was fascinated when a friend told me about it and hope you will be too. Basically, cuckold derives from the cuckoo bird. Cuckoo birds are sneaky little bastards who lay their eggs in the nest of other birds, essentially shirking all parental responsibilities. 

Thus the word cuckold was created to describe a man who is forced to raise the child of a wife who cheated on him and got pregnant with another man’s baby. Of course, now its meaning has evolved to describe a guy whose partner gets fucked by another guy. Whether or not she has a baby is irrelevant.

And now for the interview portion:

Please list your age, gender, and sexual orientation.

My age is 30. I’m a male and my sexual orientation is straight as fuck. 

Tell me about your cuckold fantasy.

My cuckold fantasy basically just entails watching a sexy girl getting fucked by a guy with a big dick. I want to watch her cum with the guy and then for the guy to leave so she can have sex again with me, just the two of us.

Have you done it in real life?

No, I’ve just watched porn and by porn I mean amateur stuff. I definitely want to actually experience it though. The only reason I haven’t done it is because I haven’t found the right person yet.

Where does your cuckold fantasy stem from? 

For me, I think it stems from getting cheated on. I ended up seeing pictures of some naked guy fucking my girlfriend and it made me so mad. I ended up staying with her but couldn’t get that image out of my head. And I don’t know, I guess somehow it turned into this sort of fixation around watching someone I’m dating get fucked by another dude with a big dick.

How far does that fantasy play out in your mind? Are you interested in being with a guy? Or is it more about the psychological humiliation?

I’m not into guys like that. It’s way more about the humiliation that comes from watching some other guy satisfy my woman’s needs. It also just turns me on seeing my woman turned on. I’m a very giving lover. 

I love eating pussy and know how to pamper my girl like the queen she is – in the sheets and out on the streets. She deserves all the orgasms, nice dinners, and handbags. If she wants it, I want to give it to her. 

As long as she’s loyal that is. I think that’s why my girl cheating hit me as hard as it did. I feel like I invested so much into that relationship. I went above and beyond to take care of her. So when she did me dirty like that it really fucked me to my core and not in a good way. 

What’s with the big dick thing? Is that an overcompensation of sorts? 

Let’s just say I’m a grower, not a shower. 

Tell me about the kind of porn you’re into. 

I’ve gotten really into virtual reality porn. It’s amazing. Every time I watch virtual reality, I feel like I am playing a scene. I feel more submissive than I do in real life because I’m watching a girl do things to me that actually feel like they are happening. 

The best is when the girl is riding me and I put ice around my dick and tape it there with Scotch tape and then I take my PlayStation controller and put it on vibrate and stick it below my balls. It actually feels so real.

What’s your craziest sexual adventure so far? 

My craziest adventure would have to be the girl who wanted me to pee in her mouth so she could drink it. I did it and it was definitely kind of weird. She was into it and I was into her being into it but it wasn’t really my thing. I’m into dominance but that somehow felt like it was going too far. 

Any closing thoughts? 

It’s harder than it might seem to turn all my fantasies into reality. I know I’m a good-looking dude who knows how to satisfy a woman but I find that most of the girls I match with on dating apps are really vanilla. You’re honestly one of the few women I know whose into kinky stuff. 

I think it’s cause you live in Brooklyn. You’re an artist. I live in Manhattan and work in investment banking. The girls I “should” be dating are basic and boring. They all dress the same and love following the rules. I want something more out there. Hopefully this rebrand we’re about to do on my dating apps will fix that.

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Based in Brooklyn, Jules has dedicated her twenties towards harnessing her pussy power, exploring the muse, whore, and wild woman archetypes along the way. When not blogging, you can find her sweating the toxins out in a hot yoga class or sipping a matcha latte at a pretentious coffee shop, whilst she scribbles away in her journal.


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