Describe your hair status (color / thickness / grooming etc.).
I have a relatively short haircut at the moment. I’m always going through phases. Occasionally I’ll grow out my armpit and leg hair. If I’m less sexually active or it’s winter time, I’m definitely less inclined to groom my bush. I used to be very self conscious about staying as hairless as possible but now I can’t be bothered. If a guy takes issue with a little hair here or there, it’s a sign that he’s not worth my time.
What are your personal preferences for hair – pubic and otherwise – in a partner? Where do you think these preferences come from?
Honestly I love hairy men. It’s just so manly. I think I read somewhere that a man’s ability to grow a beard positively correlates to sperm count and that tracks. Hairy chest, hairy face, hairy legs, hairy pubes sign me up. But if he shaves, that’s cool too. I would just never ask him to.
I also love when a guy is hairy because it makes me less self conscious. I’ve definitely dated guys whose legs were less hairy than mine and even though we would joke about it, I can’t say I loved it.
Wax / shave / laser hair removal — what’s your preference when it comes to hair removal and why?
I have such sensitive skin that I can’t shave my bikini area without it looking like I have herpes or something. So whenever I decide to lose the bush, I get Brazilian waxes. They hurt like a bitch but you know what they say…pain is beauty.
I shave my armpits and legs. I’ve been thinking of lasering everything off for a while now but I don’t know how I’d feel having no pubic hair as a mother. How could I look my daughter in the eye and tell her to love her body when I couldn’t accept my body hair and had to get it permanently removed? What kind of message does that send?
Have you ever made love to a woman with a bush and / or armpit / leg hair? What was that experience like?
Most of the women I’ve been with have been pretty hairless. There was this one chick who I had a threesome with who had armpit hair. No bush though. I remember thinking it was funny because at the time, I had the opposite situation going on – as in, full bush and no armpit hair.
Do you think it’s unfair of men who don’t groom their nether regions to hold women to a hairless standard?
1000%. I would love to see how many men who have expressed their preference for a hairless pussy make it through a Brazilian wax. Men are babies when it comes to pain. I bet they would be traumatized for life.
How much of an impact do you think porn and / or tv media has on your preferences?
I think it hugely impacts our preferences. But it’s not just about a guy seeing a hairless pussy in porn and asking his girlfriend to shave it. It’s women wanting to look like Kardashians and taking extreme measures to do so – plastic surgery, laser hair removal, makeup. Even though beauty standards have become more inclusive in recent years, men and women alike are both subjected to unrealistic expectations. I for one think the more natural someone is, the more attractive they are. To each his own.
Do you talk to your friends about this type of stuff? If yes, do you find that you are generally aligned on hair preferences or does it vary from person to person?
Most of my girlfriends are on the same wavelength as me. Generally, they shave their armpits and legs and do some kind of maintenance down under, but they aren’t obsessed with being hairless all the time. There’s for sure a trend of giving less of a fuck about that kind of stuff as you get older.
When it comes to men, I find that oftentimes the hairy guys I’m obsessed with are self conscious about how hairy they are because past partners have made comments. So they’re grateful to meet someone like me who appreciates their hairiness.
In recent years, have you noticed more people leaning into the au natural look? (Beards / bushes / armpit hair) What are your thoughts on this cultural phenomenon? ‘
Definitely. The 70s are back baby and I’m so here for it! I think it’s a reaction to the unrealistic, not to mention super sexist, beauty standards of the early aughts.
What have your partners said about your hair (pubic / armpit / leg / facial / head) and their preferences for how you should groom and how has it made you feel?
Of the dozens of guys I’ve slept with, most don’t care all that much one way or another. But more men have definitely expressed a preference for hairless pussies, armpits, and legs than visa versa. I used to take offense and get all, “Oh so you like that pre-pubescent look?” Whether it’s a personal preference or he’s just been brainwashed by society to think it’s his personal preference, it is what it is. With that said, I’m more likely to have success in a relationship where the guy really doesn’t care because that’s the situation that makes me feel the most comfortable and appreciated.
Why do you think hair and hairstyles are so important to us as humans?
I think hair is indicative of health, so there’s definitely a biological component to having or lacking hair in certain places. I also think that we live in a super heteronormative world that reinforces gender roles and women being hairless and men being hairy is part of that. If you’re a woman who decides to grow out your armpit hair, you have to be comfortable in your body and have a thick skin. People will tease you, which is just so fucking dumb. What’s more natural than hair?
Tell me about your intimate shaving experience(s) (giving or receiving).
I’ve never actually had someone shave or wax me but I’d be down to give it a try because it sounds super intimate. I have had a guy with a super hairy back ask me to shave him with an electric razor. That was actually pretty fun. Even though I didn’t give a shit if his back was hairy or not, it was clear that he did. By helping him out, we grew closer and felt more comfortable around one another going forward.
Jules
Based in Brooklyn, Jules has dedicated her twenties towards harnessing her pussy power, exploring the muse, whore, and wild woman archetypes along the way. When not blogging, you can find her sweating the toxins out in a hot yoga class or sipping a matcha latte at a pretentious coffee shop, whilst she scribbles away in her journal.
