It’s time to acknowledge the inequalities that go on during sex between men and women. Although in the ever progressing world we live in, these scenarios are becoming less and less common,
I’m sure every woman has still had multiple experiences where her male partner has been unable to locate her clitoris. So, men, let’s reverse the roles. Welcome to a world where your pleasure takes the back seat. Enjoy!
Life Without Orgasm
All day, you’ve been looking forward to having sex with her. Finally, the time has come. She pounces on you, you’re so hard, it feels so good. It slowly starts to build. She’s really enjoying it, you’re really enjoying it. All of a sudden, her breathing quickens and as her face scrunches up she lets out a moan of ecstasy. Oh wow, she’s coming, it makes you even hornier. As her orgasm comes to an end she falls out of her dreamlike state and back to reality. She slips your dick out and comes to lie next to you. Your penis is still rock hard, you still feel your blood pumping through it. You’re so desperate to come. It feels like you stopped just as it was getting good. She gives you a little cuddle. ‘That was so good babe.’ You feel like a dirty little slut to confess the fact that you’re horny but eventually you muster up the courage.. ‘I didn’t cum yet.’ She turns to you, surprised, ‘Oh..well, I did. I mean trust me I would go again if I could but I just can’t now that I’m finished.’ You swallow your disappointment as you remember the reality of life- that the end goal of sex is the female orgasm- if the man comes it’s just a bonus.
Slut Shaming
You’re on a first date. It’s going incredibly well. So well in fact, that she’s convinced you to come back to her place for a cheeky fuck. She pushes you through her bedroom door and onto the bed. In your mind you feel slightly unsure if you want to go ahead right away. But then again, you are attracted to her and she seems really into it. Afterwards, as you lie side by side talking softly to each other she asks, ‘So how many people have you slept with?’. ‘About 30’ You reply. She seems shocked. ‘That’s a lot for a guy. You know, you shouldn’t need to find validation through female approval? You’re only demeaning yourself as a man, by letting anyone and everyone sleep with you.’ ‘But I did it because I wanted to, and it was enjoyable.’ You protest. But it’s too late, she’s already looking at you like the filthy little man-whore with zero self respect that you are. You remember the reality of life- that a woman is allowed to have sexual pleasure. The more people she sleeps with, the more of a confident stud she proves herself to be. A man isn’t allowed to have sexual pleasure. When he does, the more of an insecure little slut he reveals himself as.
Head-less
Woo hoo! You’ve finally reached third base. The time has come. You’re kissing, you’re touching and all of a sudden she starts to kind of tentatively push your shoulders as if to move you down towards her pussy. You go with it. She takes off her pants, and leans it towards your face. You start eating her out, though she’s not really very well groomed, and it doesn’t necessarily taste all that good. As it gets more intense towards the end she starts to sort of push your head into it with her hands. It’s kind of difficult to breathe, nevertheless, you persist because you don’t want to be deemed ‘bad at head’ or ‘prudish’. When it’s over, you come back up, she gives you a peck on the forehead. You think, My time to shine. You take off your pants, this cock is ready to be sucked! Due to the intense social scrutiny of male appearance, you’ve obviously taken time to put on attractive boxer shorts and you’ve completely shaved and cleaned around your nether regions. She looks at your dick, and then at you. ‘Oh…I don’t do that. I’m just not into it..it’s kind of gross and makes me feel like a sissy!’ You frown, feeling confused and disheartened before you remember the reality of life- that even though statistics prove that generally men take much better care of their dicks than women do of their pussies, there’s still way more expectation on men to give women oral than women to give men.
Sex-Ed
You’re at a party. You and that girl who’s been eyeing you the entire time sneak upstairs when nobody’s looking and slip into a bedroom. You get straight to it, snogging, feeling. Because you were taught about female genitalia in school, and because all mainstream porn focuses on female pleasure, and because you felt social pressure to learn how to be good at pleasuring women, you are very well accustomed with the vulva. You know where her clitoris is, you know where her g-spot is, and her other spots (!) So even if you’re both a little nervous, it’s not too difficult to get her excited and make her cum. She slips her hand towards your jeans, unbuttons them. She starts to sort of touch a spot near your balls, but not quite, kind of the side of your inner thigh. She prods it and starts rubbing vigorously. When she takes your dick, she starts to yank it, she pulls it around in circles and moves it from side to side. Just as you’re wondering what in the fresh hell is going on here, she does something that for two wondrous seconds, feels good…before she’s back to her bullshit. You think about saying something, but feel kind of bad, and remember that this is the reality of life- that we as a society are so disinterested in and ashamed of male pleasure that the majority of the female population have absolutely no idea how to make a man cum.
Iso
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
