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getrealwithdakota

New York NY US

Relationship Coach & Sexuality Educator helping you manifest and maintain your #relationshipgoals

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My experiences are for Everyone
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In person & Online/Virtual
30s , Female , Queer
Hispanic/Latino
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Dakota — Relationship Coach & Sexuality Educator
@getrealwithdakota on IG

I'm a tough-love relationship coach and sexuality educator that helps people stop spiraling in relationship anxiety, build clarity and trust, and reconnect to their pleasure without losing themselves in the process.

I am the creator of the CARE Model for conscious monogamy, which guides people through building relationships rooted in Clarity, Agreements, Reassurance, and Embodiment. My work bridges emotional healing with practical sex and intimacy skills, helping folks transform old trauma into new standards for connection. Whether you're navigating jealousy, attachment wounds, or your orgasm, I offer real tools with no fluff.

Through workshops, coaching, and viral educational content, I teach people how to set boundaries that actually work, stop self-abandoning in relationships, and get back in touch with their power, pleasure, and voice. My writing has been featured on Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center and across social media platforms.

If you’re ready to love better without gaslighting your own needs, my work will meet you where you are and call you forward.

* My services accommodate people with disabilities or access needs

If you have any questions, do not hesitate to message me .

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Communication issues Couples coaching Intimacy coaching Sex coaching Dating advice Conscious Sexuality Pleasure education Relationships Sex toy advice Understanding Desire Erotic literature Erotic stories Short story erotica Boundaries Kink workshops Private Workshops Self exploration Trauma healing

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