At Sensuali, we manually review every member profile with attention and care. This first filter helps reduce risks, but it cannot guarantee the intentions, boundaries, or emotional maturity a person will bring into a session.

This is why every practitioner needs their own clear and reliable way to verify that a new client is safe before meeting in person.
The guidelines below offer practical steps to protect your physical, emotional, and professional boundaries, while still welcoming clients who are truly aligned and respectful of your work.

Begin with a Light Identity Check

Whenever it feels appropriate, ask for the client’s full name, email and phone number. A quick online check can help you see whether the person exists, how they present themselves, and whether their energy feels coherent.
Some clients prefer to stay anonymous for personal or professional reasons, which is completely understandable. In those cases, rely more strongly on the next verification steps: questions, a video call, a deposit, and a clear agreement.

Ask a Few Simple Screening Questions

Before accepting a first session, invite the client to answer a few questions by email. This helps you understand their intentions, their level of experience, and whether their expectations align with what you offer.

Before accepting a first session, it can be useful to ask a few simple questions by email. This helps you understand the client’s intentions, level of experience, and whether their expectations align with what you offer.

• What inspired you to book this session?

• Have you done similar sessions before? What did you enjoy or not enjoy?

• What are your intentions and expectations for this session?

• Do you have any specific desires? Name three things you want to experience for sure.

• What boundaries I should be aware of?

• Do you have any physical, emotional, or medical limitations that could affect the session?

• Is there anything else that I should be aware of before we meet?

These questions already give you a strong sense of the person you are about to meet and whether your work is the right fit for them.

Their answers will already show you a lot: their mindset, their emotional availability, and whether they approach your work with respect.

Have a Short Video Call

A 10–20 minute call is one of the most powerful ways to sense someone. Their tone of voice, the way they communicate, how they react to your boundaries, and their general presence all give you essential information.

A safe client usually answers calmly, listens well, respects your “no” without negotiation, and shows thoughtful curiosity.
A risky client might push for more, avoid direct answers, bring sexualised compliments too early, or become impatient or entitled when you clarify boundaries.

After the call, take a moment to feel your body. If something tightens, if you feel drained or rushed, or if you simply don’t know why but something feels off, trust your intuition. Your body is often wiser than your mind. If your intuition says no, then the answer is no.

Take a Deposit

A deposit is a simple, effective way to filter out time-wasters, fantasy-seekers, and people who do not truly respect your work. You do not need to justify this practice, it is standard in the intimacy and embodiment world. It shows commitment and reduces last-minute cancellations or inappropriate behaviour.

Arrange a Safety check-in

If you are meeting a client alone, let a close friend or relative know where you will be, at what time, and with whom. Sharing the client’s name, phone number and the location is a simple way to stay safe.
You may also send a quick text when the client arrives, and another when the session ends.

Some practitioners agree on a discreet code or neutral safe word with a trusted friend in case something feels off. These check-ins take only a moment, but they create a layer of safety that allows your nervous system to relax.

Choose a Safe Environment

Whenever possible, meet clients in a professional studio, a rented space, a hotel room, or an environment where you feel fully in control. Avoid spaces where you could feel isolated or unable to leave easily. Your sense of safety will shape the quality of your session.

Set Clear Boundaries in Writing

Before confirming a booking, make sure the client receives a clear description of what the session includes, what it does not include, your cancellation policy, and your consent guidelines.
A client who responds calmly to boundaries is usually safe. A client who reacts with resistance, negotiation, or confusion may not be aligned.

After the First Session, Reflect

Once the session is over, take a moment to check in with yourself. Did the client respect time, payment, and boundaries? Did you feel seen, respected, and safe? Do you feel energised, neutral or depleted? Would you want to see them again?

If something did not feel right, trust yourself. Your safety comes first. And if a client behaves in a way that felt inappropriate or unsafe, please inform the Sensuali team  we are here to support both the integrity of your work and the safety of our whole community.