Kundalini. It’s a term that’s come up several times in interviews I’ve conducted. Perhaps you’ve heard of it in relation to Kundalini yoga – the cringiest of cringe white girl yoga where they wear all white and breathe their way to enlightenment. To be fair, some aspects of Kundalini yoga are rooted in the ancient traditions of Indian tantra and yoga. I personally just find it too appropriative and whitewashed to partake in without feeling weird. But that OG Kundalini wisdom is some real shit. Shit that will change your life and elevate your lovemaking if you give it a real go.
Kundalini comes from the Sanskrit word “kundalin,” which translates to “snake.” Kundalini energy is considered to be a divine feminine energy or life force that fuels all things creative and sexual. When a yogi has a Kundalini awakening, they have activated the coiled snake at the base of their spine (aka the Muladhara or root chakra), allowing Kundalini energy to spread through each of their seven chakras, which in turn, expands their consciousness and boosts their ability to conquer whatever the universe throws their way.
As woo-woo as it all may sound, I can attest to the life-altering effects of Kundalini. From a young age, I possessed this sort of carnal, sexual energy. I think this tends to be the case for most people who go into sex work. But it was untamed, aimless, and self-destructive. I was operating with wounded feminine energy – disconnected from my body and the emotions surrounding sex, lacking boundaries, and constantly seeking validation outside of myself. As a result, I often felt depleted – lacking energy, direction, focus, and confidence.
As a newbie to Kundalini, I can’t say I’m the most elevated lady on the planet, but I will say that I’ve noticed a cosmic shift within myself since embarking on this path. Attending yoga and meditation retreats, studying ancient tantra, and committing myself to a disciplined lifestyle where I do breathwork, eat clean, and surround myself with like-minded people who are less into mindless consumption and more into spiritual growth, have all contributed to my own Kundalini awakening.
When I’m on top of my Kundalini practice, everything is in flow. I feel less tension in my body, I’m more calm and self-assured, and opportunities open up around me that I never could have dreamed possible. I stop being a slave to my morning coffee because all of sudden, I’m bursting with energy. My morning commute involves dancing through the subway turnstile and striking up profound conversations with total strangers. The writer’s block that seems to be the bane of my motherfucking existence melts away and I’m able to put pen to paper in a totally uninhibited way. Life deadass becomes a Disney movie.
Perhaps the most noticeable difference is in the sex and relationships department. Whereas before I found myself having sex to satisfy my partner and receive love from them, now I thoroughly enjoy all my sexual encounters. I feel more comfortable telling my sexual partners what I like and don’t like, which translates to more connected sex. I also find myself focusing far less on the end game. I used to be so obsessed with making my partner cum or making myself cum. It was all about ego. Now, I feel more present when I make love. It’s more about the journey than the final destination.
People also comment on the glow they see radiating from me. To be clear, my intention is not to attract more / higher quality men. My intention is to unblock my chakras and rise into my full goddess power. It’s not like I’m going around advertising my Kundalini prowess to every cute guy I meet. But energy never lies. Men subconsciously pick up on it and I find myself manifesting better and better lovers (spiritually, sexually, intellectually) each day I stay on my shit.
Paradoxically, when something throws off my Kundalini practice, things stop feeling so effortless. If I miss my morning meditation, my whole day is filled with friction. I notice more negative interactions with people in my life. I feel fatigued and unmotivated to work on creative projects, my sex drive takes a nosedive, and my neediness pushes away the men in my life. I go from being the source of my own energy and fulfillment to an energy vampire who needs things outside of herself to fuel her existence.
So what exactly is this chakra unblocking business I can’t seem to shut up about? Basically, different areas of our bodies correlate to different aspects of our inner selves. See below for the full breakdown:
Various traumas cause blockages in different parts of our bodies. For instance, a woman who is sexually assaulted is likely to experience a blockage in her Svadhisthana aka sacral chakra. This can manifest in a myriad of ways, including but not limited to feelings of unworthiness, decreased libido, pelvic pain, ovarian cysts, and infertility.
Alternatively, someone who grew up in a home where they weren’t free to express themselves (i.e a gay man who had strict religious parents he knew would disown him if he were honest about his sexual orientation) would probably suffer from a blockage of the Vishuddha aka throat chakra. This could manifest as a tendency to not speak up / be a passive people-pleaser, thyroid dysfunction, jaw pain, and hearing problems.
Micro-traumas and societal conditioning also come into play when it comes to chakras. For instance, nearly every person in the modern world suffers from a blocked Ajna aka third eye chakra. The powers that be have a vested interest in keeping the masses down and out of touch with their intuition and psychic abilities.
The 24-hour news cycle keeps us in a perpetual state of fear. Social media keeps us distracted, preventing us from tuning out the noise and looking inward. Processed foods fog our brains, keeping us sick and in the dark. As a result of this blockage, we may feel disconnected – not just from ourselves, but from other people and from nature – full of anxiety, and pessimistic about the future.
The good news is that we have the power to heal; to unblock our chakras and rise to our full potential as conscious gods and goddesses whose lives are guided by a higher purpose, free from neurosis, creative blocks, and chronic health problems. For anyone compelled to do more of a deep dive into Kundalini and chakra balancing, I would recommend checking out this video.
To close things up, I’ll leave you with a quote from Carl Jung: “When you succeed in awakening the Kundalini, so that it starts to move out of its mere potentiality, you necessarily start a world which is totally different from our world. It is the world of eternity.”
Jules
Based in Brooklyn, Jules has dedicated her twenties towards harnessing her pussy power, exploring the muse, whore, and wild woman archetypes along the way. When not blogging, you can find her sweating the toxins out in a hot yoga class or sipping a matcha latte at a pretentious coffee shop, whilst she scribbles away in her journal.
