I am Alejandra, Venezuelan and British by blood, though a true nomad since birth, shifting continents and countries every three years from continent to continent. Now, I call the northern countryside of Ibiza home, nestled in a rustic finca surrounded by olive trees. It’s from this sanctuary that I run my Intimacy and Relationship coaching practice for men; The 5th House.

My work is not just about helping men attract partners; it’s about unraveling the mystery of connection, teaching them to harness their own magnetism and embrace vulnerability. My mission? To wipe shame off the map and make pleasure as natural as breathing. Because life’s too short for bad sex and boring connections!

Me. No homework. Intensity.

What was your journey into this world?

From the very beginning, I was destined to question the norms of love, sex, and intimacy. Growing up in a multicultural whirlwind, I absorbed the fiery sensuality of my Venezuelan roots while grappling with the ‘properness’ of my British side. This contrast made me endlessly curious about the dance between desire and decorum, the push and pull of connection, and the invisible rules we all play by when it comes to love.

In my late teens, I found myself captivated by feminist novelists from the 19th and 20th centuries—women who wrote about gender roles, power, and the longing for freedom. Their words made me question everything about how we relate to one another, how men and women navigate attraction, and how society cages us in certain roles.

I wanted to dig deeper, to understand what lies beneath the surface. But my true awakening came later—through heartbreaks that shattered me, spiritual practices that rebuilt me, and lovers who taught me to savour every moment, every sensation. Through it all, I discovered that my calling wasn’t just to heal my own wounds but to guide others toward their deepest truths, helping them unlock their potential for love, passion, and self-expression.

Now, as a woman guiding men through the language of love, sex, and relating, I see myself as more than a coach. I’m a translator. A bridge.

Because at the heart of it all, that’s what we’re longing for. To understand each other. To strip away the layers of confusion and mistranslation between men and women and come closer together—not just physically, but emotionally, spiritually, entirely.