Meet Rubens Abreu, a London-based sensual practitioner originally from Brazil, offering intimate, body-led experiences for women and couples. His work sits at the intersection of touch, presence, and personal exploration, with a strong emphasis on safety, consent, and emotional awareness.
As one of the younger and more visible male providers in the UK sensual wellness space, Rubens is part of a growing shift towards more thoughtful, client-centred approaches to sensual massage. We sat down with him to talk about the values behind his practice, how his work supports women in reconnecting with their bodies, and what conscious sensuality really means in practice.
- How did you get into sensual massage?
- Tell us more about your services.
- How do clients know what to expect before a session?
- Are your clients varied?
- What makes your work rewarding?
- Do you find the sessions are beneficial to you also?
- Do you have an objective?
- Have you seen the film "Good Luck to You, Leo Grande"?
- Sensuali is all about normalising safe, positive pleasure experiences.
- What has been your experience of being a male in an industry which is predominantly female?
- What does the future hold for Rubens?
- What else can Sensuali be doing as a new inclusive, safe platform to support people in the industry?
How did you get into sensual massage?
Over a year and a half ago I met a woman who explained a sensual massage experience, and how much it blew her mind. I always enjoyed giving massages to people anyway and at this time I was looking for something new then, so I did a workshop from the man who gave her the massage.
After that I started giving these massages for free to women, which built my experience and skills. Then I made a website and started making the videos that you can find on my Instagram today and that’s how I got started.
Tell us more about your services.
So sensual massage is my main service and I love to do body to body massages, where I provide sensations from head to toe, this includes a vulva massage internally and/or externally, which can include stimulation of the clitoris and vagina.
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How do clients know what to expect before a session?
When people sign up to my site, they have to fill in a form with basic information. Then I give them a free consultation call so they understand exactly what I offer and I understand exactly what they are looking for.
This connection beforehand is so important, especially as a female seeking service from a male. I’m a stranger to them at this point so I have to make sure they trust me and are comfortable for me to come into their environment or them into mine.
Once we agree on the booking and meet, I allow an extra hour on top of the massage time for connecting before and afterwards.
Some have never had a sensual massage before, so they have questions at the start. After the session, I give time for clients to take in what has happened as it can be an extremely intense experience, not just physically but emotionally too, and sometimes they give me feedback.
Are your clients varied?
My clients are very varied! I have clients as young as 21 and as old as 68. I also allow couples; a lot of male partners like to watch their female partners being touched. I also provide massage training.
People seek my services for plenty of different reasons. Some simply want to experience pleasure, some haven’t been touched for years or decades, some have never been given an orgasm, some have never even made themselves orgasm, and some have had only either clitoral or penetrative orgasms.
Others have just come out of a long relationship and don’t have the confidence to go out and date, but they still have the basic human desire to feel pleasure. Of course, what all my clients have in common is that they want pleasure. And pleasure is very healing to us all.
What makes your work rewarding?
It’s very rewarding to work with female clients. Women have faced and still face so much sexual oppression. So many women don’t know how to connect to their sexual pleasure, and the ones that do don’t know how to ask for it. They don’t get to practice being assertive about their pleasure, especially in a heterosexual interaction.
Many women are used to pleasing the other more than focusing on themselves. They worry they will offend or put off their partner by asking to be pleasured. Also, it physically takes a lot longer for women to reach a place where they’re ready to orgasm, but for a man it’s much easier to get to that place.
I really encourage my clients to tell me when what I’m doing doesn’t work for them, and when they want me to do it differently, because different people enjoy different sensations and they enjoy different ways to be touched.
Urging clients to be vocal about what they like and don’t like is very important because it helps them practice this behaviour. It’s okay to ask for what you want, and your sexual partner should love that.
Do you find the sessions are beneficial to you also?
So much. I have shed tears with clients, I’ve shared laughs. I have witnessed how life-changing my services can be for some.
In the massage, I feel I’m in a state of flow, like we’re together in the journey and its super relaxing and intimate for me also. It’s incredibly therapeutic. This is work that keeps evolving- the more clients I see, the more I learn about it and continually improve my services.
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Do you have an objective?
Yes.
More and more I feel like it’s my mission to help normalise women seeking paid sensual experiences like sensual massage.
It’s all about helping women feel comfortable in their desires, with no shame or shyness.
I feel that I need to keep providing sensual massage services, as there are not many people who offer it, and yet I think there are so many women who could benefit from it. They just don’t know that there’s a service available.
Have you seen the film “Good Luck to You, Leo Grande”?
Yes! I cried so much during that movie. It normalises the idea of a mature woman exploring her sexuality and increasing her confidence by paying for sensual services.
I get a lot of similar feedback about my massages boosting self esteem and allowing people to be better versions of themselves.
Sensuali is all about normalising safe, positive pleasure experiences.
It’s great what Sensuali is doing. All types of sex and pleasure workers are censored all over social media. I can’t discuss sex properly on any of my platforms.
It’s so frustrating as I’m trying to promote something that’s beautiful – something that helps people.
Sensuali is very exciting for us, as it’s a platform where people can just be truthful about what they offer and get real online visibility, which is so important, as the internet is where people discover our services.
What has been your experience of being a male in an industry which is predominantly female?
There are two sides to it. I know of females that provide sensual massage services, and they often get more work than me, but that’s because society has normalised men seeking sensual services, whereas there’s still a stigma for women seeking the same services. So that’s the negative side to being a male in this industry.
However, I think my female counterparts risk facing more objectification from their male clients. Whereas my female clients like to have more of a connection which is why I spend so much time talking with them. I really like that part – getting to know them as a human being. And they see me as a human being too.
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What does the future hold for Rubens?
I’m only just beginning, and I think the industry will soon start to really take off. I just shot two big documentaries about what I do. I also want to make ethical porn that focuses on female pleasure.
Some of my videos are just massages with no nudity or sex, which people watch because they are beautiful – massaging is an art. I might do an online course for people to learn about sensual massage.
I hope all of my projects will sort of help each other. I know I’m on the right path. Eventually I would love to travel and create beautiful massage videos in amazing settings all over the world.
What else can Sensuali be doing as a new inclusive, safe platform to support people in the industry?
Interviews like this give us a voice. Videos too. Just providing a platform where people can just freely talk about their work, because we don’t have that anywhere else. It’s great, I’m really excited to be part of the Sensuali journey.
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Iso
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
Rubens Abreu
Rubens was born and raised in Brazil and lived in Australia for nearly 7 years before moving to London, UK. He has been practicing massage since 2020 and has since become famed for providing women an intimate, special type of massage also known as Yoni (Vulva), Erotic or Sensual massage.
