If your ideal intimate experience leans towards gentle caresses, slow-building bliss, and soft, sensual sensations, you’re far from alone in craving that kind of intimacy. Yet so often, what takes centre stage on our screens is harder, longer-lasting, and more intense sex, when in reality many of us are craving something far more tender.
Pleasure doesn’t always have to be about forcing, performing, or engaging in something that feels like a tick-box exercise. Sometimes it requires receiving without giving, a mutual understanding of wanting to want, and often a moment to feel something softer.
As someone who has tested toys and devices to find a softer version of intimacy over the last 5 years, I have discovered a few favourites. But remember, what works for me might not work for you, so stay true to what you desire. But, if you’re craving something that will awaken your body time and time again without overwhelming you, then you might find something that piques your interest below.
1. The Pulse Queen by Hot Octopuss — a sensual clitoral wand with soul
Designed for those who enjoy gentle stimulation that can grow, the Pulse Queen isn’t your typical wand. This wand is multi-award-winning with its PulsePlate Technology. Unlike other wands, this technology is designed to send deep, bassy oscillations through your body, creating sensations that penetrate far deeper than traditional vibrations.
Its curvaceous form and soft-touch silicone are perfect for that sensual feel, and while I recommend using it on the genitals, it can also be used as a mini massage tool for the neck and shoulders.
🌿 Why it fits the soft & sensual ethos:
Warm, deep vibration that feels like a breath rather than a jolt
Ergonomic handle for intuitive touch and ease
Whisper-quiet and waterproof for relaxed play
2. Kiwi by The Pelvic People — curiosity meets comfort
If you want to explore a softer, more gentle form of penetration than this delightful little gem allows you to explore with care.
Its organic shape has three massage ends designed for the pelvic floor and supporting muscles. The team spent hundreds of hours co-designing the Kiwi with pelvic health experts, so you know it’s on point.
This isn’t just a toy; it’s a tool for exploring softer, shallower, and more intentional pleasure.
🍃 Why it fits the soft & sensual ethos:
Easy-to-hold form that conforms to your body
Smooth surface with gentle, teasing vibration
Perfect for exploratory play or mindful self-touch
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3. Je Joue Mimi — sophisticated sensual stimulation
Je Joue calls this ‘The toy crafted for those who appreciate the finer things in life,’ and I couldn’t agree more. While it comes at a premium for its size, this toy glides like silk on the skin.
This clitoral vibrator is less about the buzz but asks you to explore its sensual waves of warmth. It’s a favourite for those who enjoy lingering sensations and controlled pacing with an ultra-soft feel.
✨ Why it fits the soft & sensual ethos:
Sophistication with powerful performance
Sleek, ergonomic design that feels like an extension of your hand
Quiet, elegant and silky soft
4. Pulse Duo by Hot Octopuss — sensual connection for two
Another from Hot Octopuss, but this time for couples looking to explore connection over performance.
The Pulse Duo is a gentle invitation to shared sensation without the need for an erection or penetration. This toy allows two bodies to explore each other’s pleasure in sync.
While the device hugs neatly around the penis, its arched base is shaped to allow the vulva to grind to their heart’s content.
💫 Why it fits the soft & sensual ethos:
Interactive remote for play that feels intimate and not distracting
Dual stimulation that is designed for both
Smooth shapes that sit comfortably during shared touch
Softness is a sensual power.
Pleasure doesn’t have to be intense; it can be slow, intentional and still be extremely mind-blowing at the same time. When we lean towards the soft and sensual, we invite pleasure that feels deeper, more breathtaking and more connected.
The toys mentioned above don’t just help support that exploration, they invite you to feel it, to breathe with it, and to savour every moment. So if you are looking for your next companion, think about what you really want to feel and let the softer side of pleasure take up space.
April Maria
April Maria is a qualified sex educator, sex and relationships coach and training psychosexual and relationships therapist. For the last four years, April has been working in the field of sex education, sex tech and pleasure, endometriosis awareness and helping others when it comes to sexual wellness, intimacy, dating and relationships.
