Alicia Schifferle is somatic sex coach for women and couples, helping those struggling with low sexual desire, orgasm difficulties and low sexual confidence reconnect to their body and pleasure, deepen their relationships and have the best sex of their lives.
Her passion for the work grew from her own personal journey. As she began exploring the reasons behind her own anorgasmia at 24, she started to realise just how many women were silently experiencing the same thing, held back by shame, poor sex education and the gender scripts we’ve all grown up with. That realisation became the catalyst for her committing herself to further study in sexology and coaching.
How would you describe yourself in 3 words?
Curious, loving, playful.
Tell us more about yourself and what you do
I am a somatic sex coach who helps women increase their libido, connect to their body and pleasure, and have the best sex of their lives.
What services do you provide on Sensuali?
Somatic sex coaching.
What turns you on?
Hot anticipation, deep emotional conversations, and leaning into all my senses.
What was your journey into this world?
I started studying sexology a few years ago, but my interest in sex originally started because I was having unfulfilling sex. I was sleeping with people for validation and performance, but once the initial excitement wore off, the sex felt like nothing.
I wasn’t able to get out of my head and was nowhere close to orgasm.
As I started figuring out my own sexual challenges, I began to realise this was bigger than me — it was a societal issue, and a lot of women were living with the same challenges, feeling broken and alone.
I developed a desire to educate as many women as I can about their bodies, pleasure, sex, and relationships, so they can start having the pleasurable sex they deserve.
What do the first 60 minutes of your day look like?
Mornings are sacred. I try not to look at my phone notifications until after breakfast to protect them. I’ll snuggle my partner for a good 10–15 minutes, then get my morning exercise done and out of the way.
After that I’ll do my daily pleasure practice before having my morning cacao (I quit coffee a few months ago to support my nervous system), and if the weather is nice enough, I’ll eat my breakfast outside.
Why do you do what you do?
We all have sex, but we rarely talk about it. Every day I hear women tell me they feel lost, broken, guilty, or ashamed because they can’t have sex like the movies.
What they don’t realise is that movie sex is far from reality — and with some good sex education and a little coaching, they can have the sex life they always wanted.
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Coaching allows me to break this outdated narrative, dismantle taboos, unpack sexual shame, and help more women feel seen, understood, and excited about sex they actually enjoy and want more of.
What is an unexpected pleasure you discovered in your work?
When I first started studying, I had no idea where it was going to lead me — I just followed a desire and a gut feeling.
Starting up my coaching services has been incredible. I love watching women slowly come to realise they aren’t broken.
When that penny finally drops, it’s such an emotional moment — it gives me goosebumps every time.
What should more people know about your work?
It’s never just one thing. There is so much that goes into sex — the nervous system, limiting beliefs, sexual shame, learning to get out of your head and into your body, learning to feel again, learning what you like, and learning to express it.
Sex coaching is deep work and requires commitment and prioritisation.
What’s your superpower?
I think I’m able to make people feel safe quite quickly. People trust me, and I think that’s an important quality when you’re talking about vulnerable and private parts of someone’s life.
We love vices. What’s yours?
Chocolate. Bury me in it.
Who are your sensual inspirations?
Rosie Rees, Georgia Grace, and Chantelle Otten.
Closing thoughts?
Like most things in this patriarchal world, the sex we are taught to want and crave centres male pleasure.
When you really look at what’s going on, it makes complete sense that so many women struggle with low desire.
There is no disorder in low sexual desire, and women should not be told otherwise. Becoming sexually empowered and confident is an act of defiance and rebellion in a world that tries to keep women small.
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Isobel Clark
Isobel is a writer and creative based in Paris. She has been part of the Sensuali team since 2022 and is deeply passionate about eroticism, kink, the feminine experience of pleasure and its place in art and culture. Originally from a Northern UK seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
Alicia Schifferle
Alicia Schifferle is a Certified Somatic Sex Coach and training Sexologist. For the last two years Alicia has been working with women to reconnect with their bodies and pleasure, increase their sexual desire and have the best sex of their lives.
