When we talk about men’s health, the conversation is often around  fitness, stress, or mental health. We see sex as something men  have no struggles with engaging in, but who’s to say that engagement is good, healthy engagement? there’s still a lot of work to be done around mindful and open sex for men.

The best sexual pleasure means being emotionally vulnerable and self-aware- areas that men have struggled with through time and still do today.

In light of Men’s Health Week, here are seven erotic experiences that expand your understanding of masculinity, power, and pleasure.

Attend a Rope Bondage Ceremony

Far from just being about restraint, rope bondage (or shibari) can be deeply meditative and a great way to tap into your kinks in a completely different style to usual.

A rope ceremony is a guided experience where you are either tied or taught to tie in a mindful, consensual setting.

Often held in studios, galleries, or intimate gatherings, these ceremonies blend physicality with ritual. You are invited to slow down, surrender control, and experience the emotional intensity of being held.

Look for practitioners who focus on consent and aftercare, and prepare to leave not just with rope marks but also with a sense of emotional grounding.

Try it: In person at rope studios in cities like London, Berlin, or NYC. Online workshops are also available. Explore Shibari experiences on Sensuali.

Book a Sensual Touch Experience

Whether through a sensual massage or a session in somatic sex coaching, these experiences allow you to reconnect with your body in a conscious and supported way. Sensual touch can be nurturing, erotic, or a blend of both. It helps quiet the inner critic, expand sensation, and build a deeper sense of trust in yourself and others.

For men who struggle with either numbness or overstimulation, these sessions can be incredibly grounding and affirming.

Try it: Seek out certified practitioners who are trained in body-based modalities. Here are some of our favourite touch practitioners that you can book on Sensuali.

Book a Kink Exploration Session With a BDSM Expert

Plenty of us are kinky, but due to shame or shyness, we don’t make the most of our kinks, or learn to properly understand them.

Even if you’re dominant in the bedroom, working with a professional dominatrix can help you get to know your kinks, your limits, and how to practise safely.

A good pro will guide you through fantasy exploration, power dynamics, and emotional safety with care and precision.

It is not just about play, it is about learning. What are your triggers? What are your turn-ons? How can you explore taboo desires in a way that respects everyone involved? The session is an erotic space that is educational without feeling clinical (unless medical play is your thing)…

Try it: In person or virtually, with professionals who value thorough negotiation and aftercare. Sessions might include roleplay, impact play, submission, or simply talking through a scene. Explore pro-domme providers on Sensuali.

Attend an Erotic Life Drawing or Body Painting Class

You do not need to be an artist to appreciate the incredibly intimate atmosphere of a life drawing class.

Life drawing, where you join a group to draw the body of  a naked or partially clothed posing model, is a very common activity today, and not always necessarily inherently sexual. However it’s always a space where you feel vulnerability, through being invited to view and appreciate another person’s body in such an intimate setting.

Some workshops go further, inviting you to paint your partner or be painted in return. Body painting can be playful, messy, intimate, and unexpectedly moving. These sessions help slow things down, taking the focus away from penetration and towards a broader, more creative expression of desire.

Try it: Look for erotic life drawing salons, couples painting nights, or sensual art gatherings. Some cities offer “paint your date” evenings designed to help partners explore non-verbal connection through art. Check out erotic artists on Sensuali to find more ways to explore your sensuality through art.

Join a Tantric Workshop or Retreat

Most men are taught to lead with their minds or their genitals, but rarely their whole bodies. Tantra, which might have woo woo connotations at first, simply invites you to slow down, listen inward, and explore intimacy as presence rather than performance.

In a workshop or retreat setting, you might practise conscious touch, breathwork, movement, and partnered exercises that build emotional and erotic awareness. It’s great to try as a couple, or alone.

This kind of work is especially powerful for men who want to reconnect with desire in a way that feels authentic and not performative.

You can start with a workshop, which will be a short, casual educational class and then try a retreat down the line- which is more like a mini-holiday where you will meet new people, try plenty of mindful intimate experiences and make memories that you’re unlikely to forget.

Try it: Tantric retreats and workshops are increasingly popular and can be found in most large cities. Some are men-only, others welcome all genders and orientations. Explore Tantric experiences on Sensuali.

Take a Short Course in Erotic Communication

Desire is easier to experience than it is to express. Most men have never been taught how to talk about fantasies, give feedback, or navigate erotic rejection with care.

Courses or coaching in erotic communication teach practical tools for sharing turn-ons, setting boundaries, and creating safe containers for play.

Doing a course doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, you’re just gaining more information and practice, like you would in a sports class or a driving lesson.

You might want to learn how to dirty talk with confidence or practise erotic negotiation in kink. Whatever it is, a short course is likely to upgrade every aspect of your sensual life.

Try it: In person or online. Look for educators who offer practical exercises and encourage active participation, not just theory. Many online courses are even free. Explore educators or sex coaches on Sensuali and ask if they provide courses, classes or workshops.

Attend an Alternative Play Party or Intimate Gathering

Play parties might seem intimidating, but the best ones are less about performance and more about presence.

These gatherings allow you to explore your desires and expand your horizons, without any expectation for you to do anything that you’re not comfortable with. Think of it as a normal social gathering, but one that simply welcomes nudity and connection openly.

Some events are themed around kink or tantra, others are designed as sensual salons, or naked parties, combining conversation with slow-touch or clothed connection. The goal isn’t necessarily sex, it’s sex positivity. In other words, being in a space where pleasure is allowed, not hidden.

For men especially, these gatherings can be a powerful way to unlearn shame, practise communication, and explore new dynamics in a respectful and structured environment.

Try it: Look for vetted, inclusive parties in your area. Many cities host a variety of gatherings that welcome newcomers and offer clear codes of conduct. Here are some of our recommended parties and events in London, New York, Paris, Berlin and Manchester.

Iso

Author

Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.