Can attraction come back in the relationship?

Asked by Carlos, Jersey City, NY · 22 July 2026
1 answer
SARAH OKAFOR
RELATIONSHIP & INTIMACY COACH

Yes - but not by waiting for it. Attraction fades when we stop seeing our partner and start seeing our routine. It returns when you experience each other freshly: watching them do something they're good at, seeing them in a new setting, being surprised by them. Desire needs a little distance and a little mystery. Build situations where you can miss each other, then meet again. It rarely comes back on the sofa.

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