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Why is it hard for me to talk about my desires?
Talking about your desires can feel vulnerable and exposing. Many of us grow up without the language to express what we enjoy, or with messages that sex and pleasure are something to feel embarrassed or ashamed about. Also, past
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach 2 (2 answers)
How to deal with a break up emotionally? Any recommendation? I do not feel like dating, going out, not mourning just sad, but how long will it last?
For now, don’t force yourself into dating or big social plans if they don’t feel right. Aim for small acts of care like regular meals, rest, a little movement, and contact with someone you feel comfortable around. A simple plan to fill up
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach 4 (2 answers, 2 replies)
What do we still want to experience together?
It's so easy to fall into routines as a couple, but desire loves novelty. I love the idea of creating a little bucket list together. It doesn't have to be sexual, you may allow yourself to think out of the box and be creative. Maybe there's
Pleasure writer, Berlin 1 (1 answer)
What is a prostate orgasm?
How do I feel more present and connected during sex?
Why is it so hard to talk to my partner about sex?
How do I become a better lover?
What is mindful masturbation?
What actually happens in a lingam massage?
What is edging, and how do I try it?
Why do I get so nervous before sex?
How do I let someone in close after a long relationship/marriage?
Very slowly. It's important to not overwhelm your nervous system with moving towards intimacy and connection too quickly. Identify and share your specific needs. It's okay to say, I'm learning and change your mind at any point during an
BDSM, Austin 1 (1 answer)
How do I put myself out there again?
It's been years since i connected to new people. How do I start again?
Check out Sensuali Events to start. There's a lot of events that can help you with connecting with people in an unpressured, sober, and intentional space. Come curious and willing to connect with people without expectations.
BDSM, Austin 1 (1 answer)
How do I begin again after my marriage ended?
How do I feel desirable again?
How do I feel at ease in my own skin?
How do I stop being self conscious during sex?
How can i reconnect to my own body sensually?
How do I feel sexy again?
Can i increase my sex drive during menopause?
Yes! But it's not as simple as going on hormone replacement therapy. How much libido ('sex drive') we experience during menopause is influenced by a whole web of factors beyond simply hormones. How much time we have for ourselves in our
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, Ibiza 1 (1 answer)
Why does sex hurt during menopause?
Does sex drive come back after menopause
Yes, it can! Menopause is a life stage, not the end. In fact in some studies couples in their 50s and 60s report higher sexual satisfaction than those in their 30s and 40s. How much libido ('sex drive') we experience during menopause and
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, Ibiza 1 (1 answer)
What is perimenopause doing to my desire?
In perimenopause, the web of bio-psycho-social factors that determine our libido can face challenges from all sides. Our hormone levels are fluctuating like crazy, affecting our moods and sleep, which directly affects desire; we might be
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, Ibiza 2 (1 answer, 1 reply)
What is it that I actually want in sex and intimacy?
I love this question because we often spend so much time focusing on what we think we should want sexually rather than asking ourselves what we genuinely enjoy. Many of our ideas about sex come from our culture, past relationships
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Is it normal for my desire to come and go?
Absolutely. In fact, sexual desire naturally fluctuates throughout life, and it’s completely normal for it to come and go and having periods of no interest can be completely normal. In fact, expecting your libido to stay the same forever
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Does my desire just work differently?
Yes, it might, and I love answering this question because one of the biggest myths about sexual desire is that everyone experiences it in the same way. In reality, desire isn’t one-size-fits-all, and there is so much complexity to it. Some
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Why have i lost interest in sex?
I feel numb during sex - what can i do?
Firstly, I am so sorry you feel this way about intimacy and sex. I would encourage you to understand better what feeling “Numb” means for you. Is it a lack of physical sensation? Feeling emotionally disconnected? Mentally checked out? Or
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
What is sensate focus, and could it help us?
We are interested in Tantra. How do we start?
What happens at a couples massage class?
How do we take care of our marriage after kids?
Can we still be close during pregnancy?
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