salemthesadist

Expect a life-changing experience! Whether you are a newbie or more seasoned, seeing a provider is an amazing way to access intimate experiences with someone you can trust. Providers have a combination of hard and soft skills that equip them to create a safe(r) container for you to explore your eroticism. Be prepared to negotiate what will take place during our session. The more honest you are about what you want, the more likely you are to really enjoy our time together. Otherwise, just be yourself and be respectful. You will get the most out of the experience if you fully lean in.

Deposits are non-refundable unless I cancel. You may reschedule with the same deposit, provided you give at least 48 hours notice. Cancellations/reschedules within 48 hours forfeit your deposit. No-call no-shows will not be able to book Me again. Repeat cancellations or reschedules may result in a 50% deposit for future sessions.

Yes! I announce tours via my newsletter and socials, and am often available for sessions and lessons during. If you want to book me while on tour, send an email and include your city in the subject line. (If *you* are planning to visit NYC from out of state or outside the country, I accept bookings for privates up to 3 months in advance.) I am also available for F/TMTY sessions. Bookings must be for 6 hours minimum (or multiple shorter sessions over a few days). This involves a 50% deposit plus covering my transportation and accommodations. I also travel to perform and to teach at rope studios. Email to inquire about my class offerings and/or performance rates.

Yes and no! There are many ways to tie. Sensually, firmly, slowly, frantically... So a session does not have to include pain or intensity from the ropes, and this is easily achieved by sticking to floor-based ties. Suspension, however, always involves some level of discomfort or pain as your body first sinks into the ropes, but you get used to it over time. If you've ever done aerial, pole dancing, or used certain gym equipment, it's similar to that. As a sensual sadist, I find the tension between the pleasure and pain of rope to be an exciting and fertile ground for exploration and self discovery. Processing an intense tie can be a deeply grounding experience, and I encourage folks to explore that if interested. I also have a lot of experience tying people who have never been tied before. I negotiate heavily about the risks of rope, and make sure that we are aligned in our desires for the energy and scope of our tie before we begin.

Shibari sessions are focused almost entirely on creating an experience for you in rope. There is an inherent power exchange between us, as one of us is bound and the other is not, but I am not inhabiting the headspace of Femdom, incorporating explicit D/s dynamics, or employing its conventions (protocol, honorifics, fetish gear). A shibari session might contain other elements of BDSM (humiliation, cnc, breathplay, T&D, some impact, etc.) but they are used sparingly as an accessory to the main focus: rope bondage. The session itself and our interactions will be fairly informal. Domination sessions, on the flip side, are often all about the atmosphere and dynamic, and can incorporate a wide range of fetishes. This requires much more preparation and planning on my end, and requires me to employ many more of my skills than a session strictly centering rope. I wear my fetish gear, latex, or lingerie, I clean and do maintenance on toys and implements, I choose a playlist and write an outline of the scene. I am also often paying a higher rate for the rental space. Thus my hourly rate here is higher. As far as booking minimums, Domme sessions start at 1 hour. They involve more negotiation in advance so that I know what to plan/pack, which in turn means that less time is spent chatting at the start of our session together. One hour is a healthy amount of time for a brief check in, a satisfying and well-paced scene, and aftercare. Because floor ties are quick and much less risky than suspension, they can easily be incorporated into an hour-long Domination session. Although I love a longer session as well so we can really dive deep together! Shibari sessions have a two hour minimum due to the amount of time needed to discuss risks of suspension and negotiate, and the fact that learning about your body and how it moves in and reacts to rope is a slow process. You may have an idea for our session in advance, but what we do will ultimately depend on how your body feels *that day*, so it's more of an improvisational process. I also like to leave a larger chunk of time at the end of the session for aftercare, as some folks might need more aftercare time for suspension compared to other types of play. Two hours is enough + breathing room, so we can go at whatever pace feels right. Domination and Shibari suspension can of course be combined, and I LOVE doing these types of sessions! I have a special two hour rate for submissives who want to experience rope suspension with all the frills and atmosphere of a Femdom scene.