Because solo pleasure deserves more than just a rinse-and-repeat routine, let’s give your spicy time a little glow-up this month!

Masturbation should be more than a quick ride to pleasure town; now and again, why not make it a ritual of self-connection, exploration, and tuning in to your unique desires? Whether you’re riding solo out of choice, curiosity, or just because you’re currently exploring me-time, switching things up can reignite that spark and take your pleasure to new sensations.

If you’re ready to get out of autopilot and into the juicy unknown, here are four deliciously fun ways to shake up your solo play this month.

We often think of this as teenage territory, but grinding or dry humping can actually be a super arousing, deeply embodied way to explore pressure. It’s not just for teens, it’s for any age, and there’s a reason why we all loved doing it so much back then!

Try straddling a pillow, blanket, or toy and experiment with slow grinding or pulsing movements. Notice how not going straight for genital stimulation can build erotic tension and keep you in your body longer. This one’s also great if you’re feeling disconnected from touch or looking for ways to explore pleasure without jumping to climax.

You can even take it up a notch by placing a wand vibrator under a pillow or blanket for extra stimulation. Or, if you want to go all out and straight to the vibes, I highly recommend the Ruby Glow grinding vibrator.

👀 Wear a blindfold.

Taking away your ability to see can completely shift how you experience touch. A blindfold (or even a scarf or sleep mask) removes visual distractions and helps you focus on the subtleties—texture, temperature, pressure, rhythm. It frees you from distractions and lets you tune into visualisation and fantasy.

When sight isn’t the leading player, your skin becomes more sensitive, your mind more imaginative, and your fantasies more vivid. Use your hands, a toy, or even a feather or ice cube and notice how each touch feels differently.

🍓 Taste while you touch.

One way to level up your solo session is to bring in taste. If blindfolding yourself isn’t your thing, try another sense, and what better than the mouth!

Try eating something rich or juicy, like a piece of chocolate, a ripe berry, or something sweet and sticky, while pleasuring yourself. Close your eyes, take a bite, and really savour it by holding it in your mouth longer than usual. The combination of taste and self-touch can light up your brain’s reward centre in a whole new way.

♾️ Switch up the positions.

Let’s be real, most of us masturbate in the same spot, in the same position, over and over again. It’s familiar, but it can also get a bit… predictable. This month, try getting curious about how different positions feel. Yes, you can explore positions, even on your own.

Why not try getting on your knees, on all fours, standing or lying in front of a mirror, or bending yourself over the bed or sofa? Each angle can create new pleasure pathways your body never knew existed. You might discover a favourite position you never thought to try alone that might become your new regular.

The bottom line?

Pleasure isn’t meant to be monotonous. It’s personal, evolving, and worthy of exploration and curiosity, especially with yourself. Don’t wait for someone else to bring in all the fun; start exploring it for yourself today!

So, whether you’re dry humping like your in your teens again, blindfolding yourself into deeper sensations or sucking on some chocolate covered strawberries, give yourself permission to play, explore and have a little fun. You deserve it this Masturbation May.

April Maria

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April Maria is a qualified sex educator, sex and relationships coach and training psychosexual and relationships therapist. For the last four years, April has been working in the field of sex education, sex tech and pleasure, endometriosis awareness and helping others when it comes to sexual wellness, intimacy, dating and relationships.