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Bondage: the b in bdsm

The B in bdsm stands for bondage. Here's what it actually means.

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Written by Isobel Clark Sensuali editorial team
Last updated 24 June 26 Reviewed quarterly
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what is bondage? the b in bdsm

We all know the phrase bdsm, but not everyone knows what it stands for. Let’s go back to basics, starting with the B for bondage.

 

 

What does bdsm stand for? Bondage
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What is bondage?

Bondage is a consensual and typically sexual practice that involves restraining one partner using various tools or techniques for erotic pleasure and exploration.

The different types of restraint

So in short, bondage experience is all the tying and cuffing etc. etc. that is part of bdsm. There are many different ways of restraining somebody, but a few common bondage restraints are:

  • Handcuffs and ankle cuffs: Metal or leather restraints designed for wrists and ankles.
  • Rope bondage: The art of tying someone up using various knots and techniques.
  • Scarves or ties: Soft materials like silk scarves or neckties can be used for gentle bondage.
  • Bondage tape: Self-adhesive tape that sticks to itself but not to the skin, allowing for easy and safe binding.

Of course, many more things can be used as restraints in bondage, it’s all about the imagination.

Can I like bondage without liking bdsm?

You absolutely can. Many people find bondage and restraint meditative. Enjoying being restrained doesn’t mean you have to be into submission or into pain. Many people enjoy being restrained because it evokes non-sexual, emotional feelings for them. 

Bondage is also an art form. Shibari, the ancient Japanese bondage is not always sexual, it is much more about the art of knot tying and requires a lot of skill and practice. 

Where can I explore bondage?

Curious to be tied? It’s always good to try bondage with someone experienced, and not someone who might accidentally injure you because they have no clue what they’re doing.

 

Discover bdsm experiences today on Sensuali. 

If you’re more interested in holding the ropes and tying someone up, try a bondage coaching session with an experienced Sensualist. 

 

First published 6 September 23
Last updated 24 June 26
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Isobel Clark

Isobel is a writer and creative based in Paris. She has been working with Sensuali since 2022 and is deeply passionate about eroticism, kink, the feminine experience of pleasure and its place in art and culture. Originally from a Northern UK seaside town, she is naturally…

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