Ethically non-monogamous relationships are some of the most intentional, communicative, and self-aware ways of relating that exist. They’re also some of the most misunderstood, including by the people who are supposed to be helping.
It’s a well-documented experience in ENM communities: you find a therapist, and when things get hard, the response is some version of “have you considered that the relationship structure might be the problem?” It comes from a lack of understanding, and it leaves people feeling more alone than when they started.
We created Sensuali to change that. All practitioners on our platform are verified and reviewed, and every one of them genuinely understands the world you’re navigating. Browse below to find the right fit.
What kind of support are you looking for?
ENM practitioners work in different ways and specialise in different things. Here’s a rough guide to help you find the right match:
Opening up for the first time. If you’re considering opening your relationship and want support navigating that transition, look for a coach or therapist who specialises in relationship structure conversations, values and boundary-setting, and helping couples move through change with clarity rather than chaos.
Working through difficulties. If you’re already in an ENM relationship and things have got complicated, whether that’s jealousy, broken agreements, communication breakdowns, or one partner pulling back, look for someone experienced in ENM-specific relational dynamics and conflict.
LGBTQ+ affirming support. Many ENM practitioners also specialise in LGBTQ+ identities, which matters when your queerness and your relationship structure are part of the same story. Finding someone who holds both means you don’t have to separate them.
Kink-aware or kink-informed practice. For those whose ENM life and kink life overlap, a kink-aware practitioner is essential. They won’t treat your interests as a side issue or something to navigate around; they’ll work with your full picture.
Somatic, embodied, or touch-based work. Some practitioners work with the body as much as the mind, using somatic, tantric, or embodied approaches to help you process what jealousy, desire, or attachment actually feels like physically, not just intellectually. If you’re drawn to that kind of work, look for practitioners who explicitly offer it.
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Our recommended ENM & polyamory practitioners
Every practitioner below has been personally interviewed by the Sensuali team about their work and approach. Most bring lived experience of non-monogamy alongside specialist training, and all of them have been chosen for the depth, diversity, and genuine expertise they bring to this space. You can message any of them on Sensuali to schedule an ENM or polyamory consultation.
Shelby Terrell | Shame-free sex, kink & queerness
Shelby is a sex, relationship, and psychedelic therapist and coach, specialising in ENM, polyamory, LGBTQIA+ issues, and kink. She also works as an Intimacy Coordinator for TV and film, bringing a rare blend of clinical depth and real-world expertise in consent and authentic intimacy.
Roy Graff | Exclusively specialising in open relationships, for over a decade
Roy is a coach, educator, and counsellor with ten years of personal and professional experience in polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships. He works with individuals and partners navigating open relating, and offers both online and in-person sessions.
Zoe K Somatics | Somatic and body-based ENM coaching
Zoe is a somatic coach specialising in gender, sex, and relationship diversity, working with clients navigating queer identities, ethical non-monogamy, kink, and sex work. With a background in sophrology and LGBTQ+ affirmative counselling, and lived experience as a performer and dominatrix, she brings both professional training and real-world insight to her practice.
Nikita Fernandes | Queer, neurodivergent, non-monogamous and clinically trained
Nikita is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, with dual specialisms in mental health counselling and LGBT health from NYU. As a queer, neurodivergent, non-monogamous South Asian woman, she brings both clinical expertise and genuine lived experience to her work with clients navigating identity, relationships, and intimacy.
Lilith Foxx | Sexologist, educator, changemaker
Lilith is a Board-certified sexologist and AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator whose work sits at the intersection of marginalised identities, alternative sexuality, and social justice. A Kinsey Institute graduate with lived experience as a queer, neurodivergent, polyamorous person of colour, she’s also been featured in Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Men’s Health.
Sapphire Leela | Where yoga, somatics and ethical non-monogamy meet
Sapphire brings personal experience of monogamy, swinging, ENM, and polyamory to her work with individuals and couples. As a certified somatic sexologist, psychosexual therapist, and trauma-informed yoga teacher, her approach is body-first and rooted in the belief that safety and passion don’t cancel each other out.
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Isobel Clark
Isobel is a writer and creative based in Paris. She has been part of the Sensuali team since 2022 and is deeply passionate about eroticism, kink, the feminine experience of pleasure and its place in art and culture. Originally from a Northern UK seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
