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Artist Muse
destingerek
In person & Online
San Diego CA US
Destin Gerek is a globally recognized leading voice in masculinity, sexuality, & personal empowerment. A Certified Sexologist through The American Board of Sexology, he’s the author of the bestselling book “The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs, & The One She Craves”. His innovative lens is the result of more than 20yrs of academic rigor & direct study - including 7 formative years traveling the world living & teaching as his provocative alter ego, ‘The Erotic Rockstar’. Destin is host of the podcast: Diving Deep w/Destin: Sex, Love, & Evolution & director of the award winning short film "Seductive Devotion". Through his flagship program, Sexual Self-Mastery, he’s trained over 2000 men to master their sexual energy & become attuned, evolved lovers. Destin’s taken the most potent aspects of his bold life experimentation & integrated it into his iconic body of work, directly supporting men to have better sex, deeper connections to their masculine power, women, & themselves
Artist Coach
nikitafernandes
Online
New York NY US
I am a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in New York City. I graduated with my Master’s in Counseling in Mental Health and Wellness and a dual degree in LGBT Health, Education, and Social Services from New York University. I also hold a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology with a background in Women and Gender Studies from George Mason University. I identify as a queer South Asian immigrant woman. I’m also neurodivergent and non-monogamous. Aside from being a therapist, I have volunteered as a crisis counselor for the Trevor Project, worked as a graduate assistant for the New York University LGBTQ+ Center, and helped in the planning of social justice conferences. I approach therapy with the intention to understand and connect with my clients as fellow humans. My own journey as a queer South Asian neurodivergent woman, along with the experiences of those close to me, deeply shape my approach. Building a genuine relationship with my clients is my top priority, as I believe it is the biggest predictor of therapeutic success. As a person of color, I actively challenge oppressive structures that have long been dominated by Western white culture. Jiddu Krishnamurti said that it is no measure of health to be adjusted to a society that is profoundly sick and I do not see therapy as a way to numb the pain that is caused by systemic oppression but rather a way to empower clients to have compassion for themselves.
Educator Kinkster Therapist
lacyavon
In person & Online
Dallas TX US
vintage curator - dabbler in all arts master of nothing - quencher of thirst I write, sew, sell vintage, and attend lots of local music shows.
Erotic creator
MissFallon
Online
Sicilì IT
Cambridge girl with a Spoiling kink. I can’t help that gifts, cash, and lavish experiences turn me on SO much.
Dancer
marazza
In person & Online
Antwerp BE
Artist, shadow worker, vegan, spirituality, psychology, polyamorous. Progressive, non conforming, highly emotionally intelligent, deep, gentle, introverted, sensitive, reserved, growth oriented, self aware, compassionate. Femininity, polarity, sensuality, beauty, romance.
Artist
riversiobhan
In person & Online
Grass Valley CA US
supporting you to attune to your sensual aliveness
BDSM Coach Massage Therapist
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misslycoronel
Online
Palm Desert CA US
I’m drawn to energy that’s authentic and a little mysterious—someone who knows how to laugh deeply and isn’t afraid of thoughtful silences, too. Let’s get to know each other through shared stories, unexpected conversations, and maybe a bit of playful banter.
BDSM
jeremyshub
In person & Online
Berlin DE
Working as a sex therapist, sex educator, sexological bodyworker, and relationship coach, Jeremy brings a wealth of experience and knowledge to their practice. Currently based in Berlin, they identify as polyamorous, slutty, a sex worker, kinky, genderfluid, and queer. With a background in education, science, creative art, and sexual health, Jeremy holds multiple university degrees and has facilitated numerous workshops on sexuality, relationships, and pleasure. Jeremy is dedicated to supporting individuals, couples and relationship constellations of all orientations and gender identities, with a focus on respecting consent and boundaries. Jeremy brings a queer-positive, anti-racist, and intersectional feminist perspective to the work, informed and inspired by the principles of decolonization, anti-patriarchy, anti-capitalism, and pro-earth spirituality.
Coach Educator Therapist
Soleil Merroir
Online
Mexico City MX
I offer you the journey to the deepest roots of your erotic self, the reasons why you crave the darkness and the heat.
BDSM Therapist
What is an open relationship?
More friction, less restriction.
An open relationship refers to a consensual arrangement where individuals agree that they are allowed to pursue sexual or romantic connections outside of the primary relationship. The terms and boundaries of an open relationship can vary widely and are typically established through open communication and mutual agreement between partners.
The aim is to foster transparency, trust, and the freedom for each individual to explore connections with others while maintaining a committed partnership. A sugar baby might be the kind of Sensualist who would be interested in the concept of an open relationship.
What makes it hot?
The appeal of an open relationship lies in the freedom it offers to explore different aspects of one's sexuality and connect with others without sacrificing the primary relationship. It can provide a sense of novelty, variety, and personal growth. The arousal factor often stems from the excitement of navigating new connections, experiencing diverse intimate dynamics, and the deepened communication and trust that can result from openly exploring desires within the bounds of agreed-upon rules.
Yes, for some individuals, the increased communication and trust required in navigating an open relationship can lead to a deeper and more resilient connection with their primary partner.
Open communication is key. Acknowledge and discuss feelings of jealousy with your partner(s), and work together to establish strategies for managing and mitigating these emotions.
Open relationships are not one-size-fits-all. They require mutual consent, clear communication, and a shared understanding of boundaries. It's essential to consider the comfort and desires of all individuals involved.
DO
Establish clear communication: Open and honest communication is crucial. Clearly define boundaries, expectations, and desires with your partner(s).
Prioritise safe practices: If engaging in sexual activities with others, prioritise safe sex practices to protect the health and well-being of all involved.
Regular check-ins: Regularly check in with your partner(s) about how the open relationship is impacting everyone involved. Open dialogue ensures ongoing consent and understanding.
DON'T
Neglect emotional boundaries: While exploring outside connections, be mindful of emotional boundaries to avoid unintentional harm to your primary relationship or others involved.
Assume consent: Always seek explicit consent before pursuing connections outside the primary relationship. Assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and trust issues.
Use openness as an excuse: Open relationships require responsibility and accountability. Avoid using the concept of openness as an excuse for dishonesty or neglecting your primary relationship.