Women are so good at faking it, do you ever question whether you really did make her cum? And if you did, do you ever wonder whether it was a so-so orgasm, or a mind-blowing orgasm?  Here I am to answer your prayers. Here’s a guide to the telltale signs that you gave her a real (and top tier) orgasm.

 

13 signs she had a real orgasm

Her Body Temperature Increases

If she’s noticeably hotter than before, this is a good initial sign that a woman is truly turned on and that her desire is increasing. 

 

Her Face is Flushed

This is most noticeable after orgasm. If she has some redness in her cheeks, it’s a telltale sign that you made her cum, for sure. Part of the female sexual response cycle is a rosy glow that is often most noticeable in the face, but for some people it can appear on the body too.

 

Her Heart Rate Quickens

Again, this one’s most noticeable after orgasm. If you pull her close and can literally feel her heart thumping away you know you’ve done a stellar job. If you touch her pussy, and you can just about feel her pulse down there, you know you’ve done a double stellar job…

 

Weird Body Movements

If, before orgasm, she’s sort of adjusting her body a lot, like pushing out her chest by arching her back, or moving her hips as if she’s grinding along with your movement, you know it’s starting to get good for her.

She might open her legs more, but equally she might close them more; both movements feel good for a woman. In the same vein, her body might be very clenched and stiff, but this is normally a good sign. Finally, as she’s cumming, if her toes are curled, you know you’ve given her a knockout ‘gasm. 

 

Her Clitoris is Swollen

We all know that when a woman’s horny she usually gets wet (though sometimes she can be horny without being wet), and that her nips get hard, but another physical sign is that parts of her vulva become swollen and sensitive, including the clit. Playing with it when it’s in this aroused state will drive her crazy. 

 

She Becomes More Present

Sometimes, women can be shy during sex, they feel an immense pressure to please, and don’t think about their own desires. However, every woman can reach a point, when she is truly turned on enough, where she suddenly loses all inhibitions, and becomes really fucking present.

She might start looking into your eyes searchingly, helplessly, lovingly, she might start talking to you, more specifically she might start begging you (for more). She might want to be closer to you, to touch you or kiss you. This is when you have her in the palm of your hand- your girl’s about to have a mind-blowing orgasm. 

 

She Squirts

Now, at the moment a woman squirts, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she cums simultaneously. So always make sure to ask afterwards whether she did orgasm, but if she didn’t, no worries. Keep calm and carry on! Squirting might not always equate to orgasm, but it’s a good sign that physically you’re doing the right thing.

You’ve managed to physically excite her in a way that is difficult to do, meaning that if she does have an orgasm afterwards, it’s likely to be a good one. 

 

The Spasms & The Shakes

My personal fave. As a woman cums, sometimes she might jerk her body like she’s having a spasm. She does that because it’s really good. The only way I can describe it is an orgasm so intense that your body feels hypersensitive. It’s like little spasms of pleasure, too intense to last longer than in short spurts.

Another physical sign she really came is if her legs are shaking uncontrollably. From all of her muscles contracting during orgasm, when she finally relaxes them, her legs can shake like this. 

 

Dramatic Declarations

‘I need you’ ‘I’m yours’ ‘Take me’ As her body gradually surrenders, she wants to verbally express this. You’ll know by the way she says it if she really means it. Afterwards, she might tell you she loves you. At that point, you’re a force to be reckoned with. 

 

She Cries

It’s not that uncommon for women to cry during or after sex. It’s not always a good sign, so be sure to check in, but when it is a good sign, it’s a very good sign. It’s usually post-orgasm and at its best is a result of combined physical and emotional intensity.  Sex is a very physically daunting thing for a woman.

Whilst a man has his thing inside of something, a woman has something coming inside her thing. It’s very intense and often painful even when it’s good. Combine that with the emotional intensity of orgasm and it’s enough to make you cry. 

 

She Takes Over 1 Minute to Recover

Men, I’m sure you can relate to this one. After a really good orgasm, everyone knows that you’re kind of dead for at least one minute. If she’s up and about a couple of moments after cumming, it either wasn’t that intense or it wasn’t real at all.

 

She’s Either Very Tired or Very Energised Afterwards

Whilst men are always sleepy after orgasm, it can go two ways for women. After they’ve recovered from their post-orgasm zone-out, they’re either very tired (and cuddly), or alternatively, they suddenly spring up and start acting like a clown.

This is from the dopamine release that orgasm has brought them. So if your girl’s giddy after sex, don’t take it badly, she probably just had a wonderful orgasm. 

 

She Thanks You

You surely can give yourself a pat on the back if after sex, a woman literally thanks you. It normally means that the feeling of sexual surrender was so strong, that post-orgasm, she’s still vibing with it. Like she’s still on the sex buzz even after she’s cum. Hats off! 

 

 

Artwork: ‘ORG’ by Patrick Delaunay.

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Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.


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