I’ve been testing and trying toys for the last five years, and one thing never gets old: the wide-eyed curiosity or cheeky laughter that erupts whenever someone asks to see my toy collection as I slip it into conversation. Someone often follows with a cheeky comment, someone else gets brave, and before I know it, I’m bringing out a curated selection of vibrators like it’s dessert and a show.

What I always love in those moments isn’t the reaction itself, but what comes after. Once the initial giggles settle, couples become curious. They want to touch, ask questions, compare shapes, and, without fail, they always ask the same thing “So… what toys can we use together?”

It’s in these moments that I’m reminded just how much couples want to explore, but often don’t know where to begin. Toys aren’t taboo anymore; they’re conversation starters, connection builders, and a genuinely fun way to turn curiosity into pleasure. The greatest thing often unknown is that they can also support couples navigating things like erectile dysfunction (ED), pain, desire mismatches, disability, and the very real sexual challenges that show up across a lifetime.

So, whether you’re looking to explore new sensations, try something new, or create more comfort and support during sex, here are five of the best toys for couples to explore together.

1. LELO TIANI™ – Couples Vibrator for Shared Sensation

The LELO TIANI is a beautifully designed couples vibrator worn internally by the vulva-owning partner during penetrative sex. Its flexible shape allows both partners to feel the vibrations, enhancing pleasure without getting in the way.

Perfect for couples who want to:

• Add clitoral stimulation during penetration
• Experience shared vibrations
• Explore hands-free play

The remote control also adds a playful element, allowing partners to tease, build anticipation, or take turns guiding the experience.

2. Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo – The Hands-Free Couples Essential

A favourite for couples of all ages, bodies and abilities. The Pulse Duo uses oscillating technology on the penis, delivering stimulation that works beautifully even in a flaccid state, making it a powerful support tool for people with ED or mobility limitations or those who want pleasure without the pressure “to perform.”

Used solo or during partnered play, the Pulse Duo allows:

• Hands-free pleasure for the penis
• External vibration for the vulva via the opposite raised side
• Easier intimacy during fatigue, pain flares, or low arousal
• A slow, sensual pace that removes performance anxiety
• For those who love to grind

3. We-Vibe Ditto – A Beginner-Friendly Anal Plug With App Control

Anal play can offer pleasure, pressure, fullness, and a completely different dimension of intimacy, and Ditto is one of the gentlest ways to get started. Its slim, soft-silicone design is ideal for beginners and perfect for couples who want to introduce a new sensation without overwhelm.

The We-Connect app allows partners to control vibrations from anywhere, making it great for:

• Long-distance play
• Power dynamics
• Foreplay that lasts all day
• Couples wanting to explore anal pleasure safely and gradually

It’s playful, non-intimidating, and versatile enough to use in almost any position.

4. Le Wand Petite – A Classic Wand, Perfect for Couples Play

A wand is a staple for a reason, and the Petite makes it couple-friendly by being lighter, quieter and easier to manoeuvre. Whether you’re exploring full-body massage, edging, clitoral pleasure, adding some vibes to the balls or shared teasing, it blends comfort with power beautifully.

Couples love it because:

• It can be used during penetrative sex without too much bulk
• It supports pleasure for vulvas, penises, nipples, perineums and more!
• It’s a fantastic tool for foreplay, warm-up, and aftercare
• It introduces multiple speeds and patterns for tailored sensations

Think of it as the “everything wand” strong, versatile and endlessly creative.

5. MysteryVibe Poco – Smart, Bendable & Brilliant for Exploration

Poco has to be my personal favourite. It is one of the most adaptable vibrators couples can use, and especially great for those who experience pain. With bendable arms, targeted vibration and a slim body, it moulds to different anatomies and slides comfortably between you and your partner.

Perfect for:

• Couples who enjoy experimenting with angles and pressure
• Tech-savvy lovers who enjoy app control
• Supportive pleasure when arousal is complex or inconsistent

Its flexibility makes it one of the most customisable toys on the market.

Pleasure Is a Team Effort

Before you head off to shop for your next couple’s toy, I want to remind you that introducing toys into your relationship isn’t about replacing a partner; it’s about expanding the experience together.

Whether you’re curious beginners or seasoned adventurers, remember: Pleasure grows through communication, openness and shared exploration.

April Maria

Author

April Maria is a qualified sex educator, sex and relationships coach and training psychosexual and relationships therapist. For the last four years, April has been working in the field of sex education, sex tech and pleasure, endometriosis awareness and helping others when it comes to sexual wellness, intimacy, dating and relationships.