Lucy Rowett is a sex coach and sexologist who works primarily online, supporting women and vulva havers to explore pleasure, intimacy and self-connection without shame.

Drawing on her own journey through faith, illness and sexual awakening, she offers a grounded, compassionate space for those who want to feel more at home in their bodies and relationships.

We spoke to her about touch, creativity, her cat, and why her mornings often begin with green tea and a sweep of the floor.

Can you describe yourself in 3 words?

Ambivert, sensitive, creative. Can I add hilarious too? I like to think I am.

Tell us more about yourself and what you do…🦹‍♀️

I’m Lucy, and I’m a British woman living in Vienna, Austria, married to a German man. I’ve been a sex coach and sexologist since 2017 which feels insane when I think about it. 

I’m a sex coach and sexologist for women and vulva havers to help them get out of their heads and into pleasure, to have the intimacy they really want, and befriend their bodies.

I also work a lot with people from faith and conservative backgrounds– especially purity culture– to de-shame their sexuality and find what is authentic for them.

My approach is talk-only, using methods from somatics, sexology, co-active coaching, embodiment practices, meditation, tantra and taoism. 

I work primarily online via video conference, but also occasionally offer in person workshops in Vienna and the UK. I can work with people 1:1, in groups, workshops, and online courses.

I tend to only work with women and vulva havers on their own, not in couples’ sessions, but sometimes I will offer a couples’ session as part of our working together so that their partner can feel included. 

I also have a podcast, The Naked and Unashamed Life, which is a real labour of love for me because it’s so rewarding to do it. I love writing and have written for publications like iNews and FrolicMe. 

Outside of work, I adore my cat and regularly talk about her online. She loves to crash my sessions at times, and I have to make a decision to let her stay or kick her out as she is very much an attention seeking drama queen. Much like me, really.

I love living in Vienna and socializing with other women and professionals here. In the summer I love swimming in the Danube to help stave off the dreadful heat, and I’ve come to love hiking. 

What services do you provide on Sensuali?

Sex, intimacy, and relationship coaching for women and vulva havers.

What turns you on?

Sexually: Touch, any kind of touch. Touch me in the right way in the right place and I’ll do anything. Smell is another big one for me, I have to like how somebody smells. 

Life: Dancing, being in water, bright colours, scents, being with like minded people, writing, singing.

What was your journey into this world?

I grew up in the 90s and 00s in London in a Church going family. My dad is actually the UK’s longest serving Lay Reader, and my family is very religious on both sides.

Thankfully they’re not the “fire and brimstone” or beating you round the head with the Bible kind, but the Church is a big part of both my parents and my extended family’s life. 

I embraced the Faith for myself as a teenager, and went all in with it. That also meant I got heavily influenced by Evangelicalism and purity culture. 

When I was 15 my health broke down with very severe chronic illness and I had to leave school, and the next 10 or so years were spent in and out of hospital and care homes. 

As part of my healing journey, I eventually left Christianity and started exploring my sexuality– as despite purity culture’s best efforts, I’ve always had a high desire and high interest in sex. 

This led me to get into tantra and sacred sexuality, and then while working with a recovery coach in my early 20s, she asked me what I would do with my life if I could do anything in the world. I said, “work with sex!”.

I love this part of me that just went for what she wanted, with my blinkers on. I found a training I really liked, and… did it. (Thanks to some money my grandad had left me in his will.) 

Since then then I’ve grown up a lot, and while some of my opinions and attitudes have changed, my passion for this work hasn’t stopped. 

What do the first 60 minutes of your day look like?

I have lots of ideas for a wonderful morning routine, do I do them? Not really. I try and poke my head out of the door first thing to get the morning sunlight, I usually do some stretches, and I try some journalling.

I try very, very hard to not look at my phone, but do I succeed? Not always! I always have a big glass of water and a cup of green tea, and then I’m sweeping the floor from cat litter my cat has sprayed after jumping out of the litter tray.

Depending on the time of year, I try and get a morning walk in, but in the summer months when it’s super hot it’s not always possible unless I wake up super early. On the super hot days I usually prepare to go swimming in the river Danube first thing as it stops me overheating during the day. 

Why do you do what you do?

There are so many reasons, possible the main one is it just brings me so much joy.

It brings me pure joy to be able to give advice and support to people who have usually tried everything, or not known where to look before, and then when we work together, things change.

It also brings me joy to be doing my bit in helping de-shame sex.

What is an unexpected pleasure you discovered in your work?

Probably when I lead people through meditations or guided practices, especially with music, feels very pleasurable to me. I hadn’t expected to enjoy the almost domme like energy of doing that.

What should more people know about your work?

3 things:

1: You absolutely do not need to be “wild” or “adventurous” to work with a sex coach or attend any of my workshops or programs.

2: It’s much less waving dildos in the air and telling you to have orgasms, and much more asking how you’re feeling and how your body is feeling.

3: I guarantee that if you come to me looking for help with low libido or orgasms, you will walk out of our work together with much, much more. More self confidence, feeling like you and your body can be friends, that your needs matter, that you’re allowed to have wants, finding your voice, and so much more.

What’s your superpower?

My creativity can be off the charts, especially when I’m in a flow state. I’ve been told my output is insane, and it’s often because when I write, it flows out of me like lava. That and pattern recognition. I am eerily good at predicting things based off behaviours. 

We love vices. What’s yours? 

Chocolate, masturbating, and shopping!

Who are your sensual inspirations?

I always loved Xena Warrior Princess.

Closing thoughts? Anything else to add? 

I never could have imagined doing this work back at my old high school careers day. And yet I can’t think of something that I would find more rewarding and life giving. It feels like such an honour to hold space for clients, in their most tender and vulnerable moments, and affirm their sexuality.

Learn more about Lucy Rowett and check out her Substack.

Listen to Lucy’s podcast with Spotify or Apple. 

Iso

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Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.

Lucy Rowett

Author

Lucy Rowett, CSC, is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She is the host of the Naked and Unashamed Life podcast, and the resident sex coach at UK contraception platform, The Lowdown. She is regularly quoted in the media for her expertise in sexual health and wellness, pleasure, and sexual shame- including iNews, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, GQ, The Sun, Insider, and Glamour. In 2023, she was nominated for somatic sexologist of the year at the sexual freedom awards. She uses a combination of mind body tools with evidence-based sexuality education to create a fun and open space for women and vulva havers to explore their full erotic potential. Her speciality is working with women and people with vulvas who come from Faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable and intimate relationships again.