Disconnection can happen for lots of reasons and can be fairly common in long-term relationships. Over time, we deprioritise the relationship, sometimes through no fault of our own, simply because life gets in the way.
One thing I encourage people to consider is when they last felt connected. Was there a particular event, transition or period where things started to change? Understanding what shifted is more helpful than focusing on who’s to blame.
Rebuilding connection usually starts with small, intentional moments rather than grand gestures. Any relationship requires work, commitment, and a constant effort to both show up and nurture it.
If the distance has been there for a while or feels difficult to overcome on your own, couples or psychosexual therapy can provide a safe space to understand what’s happening beneath the surface and find your way back to one another.