Okay bestie. So you’re taking the lead. You’ve made it to the top spot (literally)…now what? First of all, congratulations on your promotion. Second of all, let’s talk about how to ride like a cowgirl, serve confidence, control, and hot girl energy without overthinking if your chin’s doing that double thing!
Tip 1: You’re the star of the show
You are not an extra in someone else’s fantasy…you are the plotline! Think of it like a performance: you’re serving face, body, and vibe. Tilt your chin up, make eye contact, play with your titties and channel your inner “it girl.” Whether you’re serving mysterious smirk or full-on giggle fit, it’s the confidence that makes it hot. As much as cowgirl feels like it’s more for the man to just sit back and enjoy…it’s for YOU too, so be sure to have fun and own your pleasure.
Tip 2: Pace and rhythm
The secret? Switch it up. Different speeds, different rhythms…it’s all about the contrast. Move slow and smooth when you want to build tension, then pick up the energy when you’re feeling bold. You don’t need to be squatting up and down the whole time as honey…that’s a leg workout and you’ll end up getting tired quicker. If you start to tire, you can guide your partner’s hands underneath you, so he can basically jack hammer you and do the heavy lifting! When in doubt, remember the Shakira rule…your hips are storytellers, and they never lie.
Tip 3: Double chin and body anxiety
Listen. Every hot girl has paused mid-action and thought: “Oh no, what if I have a double chin right now?” Babe…NO ONE CARES. Literally zero people are thinking about your chin or do I have tummy rolls right now, they’re thinking, “wow, I’m living a cinematic experience right now.”
Maybe do a few self care activities, which make you feel a bit more confident before getting on top: I feel my most sexy when I’ve fake tanned the night before and I’m wearing a hot matching lingerie set…as much as the underwear will come off quickly, it’s doing things for you that will make you feel good and in the mood for intimacy.
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Tip 4: Keeping it spicy
Cowgirl doesn’t have to be just bouncing up and down for 2 mins until you get bored…you could try leaning all the way back, so your hands are on his ankles. Then he can use his hand to do a little dj set on your clit, whilst you’re doing light bounces on his cucumber! It’s fun, it’s spicy and he won’t be expecting that move…bookmark this one!
Tip 5: Stay present
When you’re in your head, you can’t enjoy the moment. Let go of perfection, focus on how you feel, and just have fun. Laugh if something awkward happens, breathe, and stay in your confident zone. The most magnetic people are the ones who look like they’re enjoying themselves because they are.
I hope these tips have helped to give you a little bit of confidence!
Being “on top” isn’t about moves, it’s about mindset. You don’t need choreography, abs of steel, or influencer lighting. You just need confidence, rhythm, and a sprinkle of delusional self-belief.
Remember sex should be fun regardless of what position you’re doing, so have fun and we ride at dawn baby!
Katerina
Katerina is an Actor, Comedian and Sexfluencer. Quoted as "London's Answer to Samantha Jones" by Evening Standard - Katerina loves working in the sexual wellness space creating funny, relatable and educational content. She has worked with Ann Summers, Bellesa, Love Honey, So Divine, Vush, Womenli, Durex and more! Katerina placed at number 7 in the Top 60 Sexual Health Tiktok Influencers in 2025.
