I gave myself a gift I had long been dreaming of: a professional domination session. It was my birthday present to myself, something I had desired for a long time, and finally allowed myself to receive.
I cycled to BDSM Studio Lux in Templehof, Berlin, where I found myself standing in front of a beautiful old building. Climbing up the stairs, I entered a studio that immediately took my breath away: high ceilings, vintage furniture, each room designed with a different theme. It felt light and welcoming, not dark or intimidating, and full of possibility like a maze of kinky curiosities.
I was greeted by Ron Hades, whose performances I had admired before and with whom I had already exchanged a few times. Ron is a queer sex worker, Dom, performer, and kink educator who embodies a subtle balance of warmth, care and authority.
Their presence made me feel instantly safe and at home. Dressed in a white shirt, black trousers, and a magnificent leather piece across their chest, Ron looked both elegant and powerful.
Before our session, I had filled out a detailed questionnaire about my desires, my boundaries, and my health. That preparation already gave me a strong sense of safety: this was a space where consent and care were central.
Still, we took time for a conversation before starting. Ron asked me about how I was feeling that day, what I wanted to experience, and what I absolutely did not want. They also explained some practices in detail, such as breath play to be sure I understood and could make clear choices.
Ron also asked me directly if I wanted to orgasm. I told them it was a possibility, but not a requirement. I expressed my wish to explore ropes, impact play, breath play, sensations on my skin, and the feeling of domination both physically and mentally. I wanted to be surprised. To trust. To let go.
A Game of Sensations
Ron invited me to undress to the level I felt comfortable with. I decided to strip completely, keeping only my underwear that was linked to a lace collar, and to walk towards them. Already, I could feel the shift of power in the room.
On a soft mattress, they blindfolded me and placed a wide leather collar around my neck. Then they attached my wrists with vintage leather cuffs and secured me in four directions: two ropes from the collar to the floor, two from the cuffs.
For the first time, I understood why leather is such an essential element of BDSM: it carries history, texture, and memory – plus the smell alone feels deeply arousing.
Blindfolded, bound, collared… I expected to feel trapped. Instead, I felt profoundly free. With every movement, the ropes guided me, the movement of my head tied to the collar gave me a subtle high, and the silence allowed me to sink deeper.
When Ron finally removed the blindfold and looked at me, I felt like a queen, paradoxically most empowered at the very moment I was completely restrained.
The session unfolded like a dance, a slow build-up of intimacy and domination. Ron teased my skin with various tools and objects I couldn’t identify. It didn’t matter what they were. The not-knowing was the gift. All I had to do was feel, breathe, and surrender to the mystery of each new sensation.
Then came impact play: their hand, a flogger, sharper tools. Each strike landed differently, awakening both pain and pleasure, pushing me to breathe deeper and reach that sweet high where everything dissolves into pure sensation.
Instead of a safeword, Ron had given me a small metal clip to hold in my hand. If it became too much, I could simply drop it. I loved this system: it allowed me to stay silent, to stay out of my mind, to not use words. I never dropped the clip. And I felt proud of that, proud of my ability to trust, to endure, to go deeper.
From Intensity to Ecstasy
Ropes came next. Ron tied my breasts, framing and lifting them with precision. They clipped my nipples, tightening them with ropes and keeping the tension for a long time. It was both scary and delightful, the sharp pain transforming into a deep release when the clips were finally removed.
The sensation spread through me like fire turning into water: painful, blissful, liberating.
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Ron introduced a subtle form of breath play recycling my own oxygen through a small device. It was gentle, experimental, and gave me a delicate, floating high.
Later, Ron suspended me in a chair-like position. The feeling of the ropes on my skin was at times painful, at times strangely comforting. I entered a paradoxical state: uncomfortable yet profoundly at ease.
Then they shifted me sideways into a more intense suspension. It challenged me. My body screamed in discomfort, but my breath carried me through. I held onto the rhythm of inhaling and exhaling, and found myself again in that vast high surrendering completely to the moment.
At one point, they slipped on a latex glove and touched me directly, bringing me to the very edge of orgasm. The intensity of this edging was exquisite: I felt suspended between craving and surrender with a never ending diffused sensation of pleasure that was running through my whole body.
Instead of shame, I felt proud. Proud of my body, proud of my vulnerability, proud of daring to be there. Ron guided me into positions I had never known before, pushing the edges of my comfort. I felt myself expand simply allowing it all, and discovering that my greatest strength and freedom lies in the very act of surrender.
Thoughts of Pleasure and Skills
After the session, I felt lighter. Empowered. More alive in my body. For two hours, I had been guided into a space where I could fully surrender, feel, let go and just be present without any expectation.
That night, I replayed the whole session in my mind while self-pleasuring as Ron suggested. I savored again the edging, the sensations, the surrender, and allowed release in my own rhythm.
What struck me most was how much skill and artistry it takes to create a session like this. It’s not improvisation. It’s years of learning pressure points, practicing rope techniques, mastering tools of impact, refining psychological presence.
Watching Ron work, I realized how legitimate it is to pay for such expertise, just as one pays for therapy, massage, or coaching.
And I want to say this especially to women: instead of buying another expensive bag, or a fancy dinner, or even a weekend away, why not treat yourself to an experience that transforms you from the inside?
A session like this can show you new dimensions of yourself, new ways to feel, to surrender, to let go.
Of course, partners can also learn. It may take time and creativity, but it’s possible to create meaningful, deep scenes together. Yet there is something profoundly powerful in being guided by a professional whose sole focus is your experience, your surrender, your pleasure without any expectation.
For me, the theatricality of the setting, the intensity of the sensations, the ritual of it all carried me into a state I had rarely touched before.
Ron Hades is, without a doubt, the most professional Dom I have ever met. They combine skill with care, intensity with safety, artistry with activism. To receive from them was a privilege, and one of the most meaningful gifts I’ve given myself.
Because yes, pleasure matters and an experience like this can become fuel for strength, creativity, and transformation, not only in our intimacy but in the way we move through life.
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Pauline Marie-Antoinette
Pauline is a poetry writer, performer, experience creator, and intimacy and kinks workshop facilitator. She believes in the power of arts and creativity to be profound vehicles for change and loves to empower people to free their inner artist and turn sensuality into a real art form. Her solo-show, "An Erotic Poetry Odyssey" is an invitation to deepen intimacy, explore conscious kinks while challenging societal taboos. Pauline designs experiences for couples, retreats and workshops in Berlin and around the world!
