Meet Ibiza-based men’s sex & relationship coach: Alejandra

What was your journey into this world?

From the very beginning, I was destined to question the norms of love, sex, and intimacy. Growing up in a multicultural whirlwind, I absorbed the fiery sensuality of my Venezuelan roots while grappling with the ‘properness’ of my British side. This contrast made me endlessly curious about the dance between desire and decorum, the push and pull of connection, and the invisible rules we all play by when it comes to love.

In my late teens, I found myself captivated by feminist novelists from the 19th and 20th centuries—women who wrote about gender roles, power, and the longing for freedom. Their words made me question everything about how we relate to one another, how men and women navigate attraction, and how society cages us in certain roles.

I wanted to dig deeper, to understand what lies beneath the surface. But my true awakening came later—through heartbreaks that shattered me, spiritual practices that rebuilt me, and lovers who taught me to savour every moment, every sensation. Through it all, I discovered that my calling wasn’t just to heal my own wounds but to guide others toward their deepest truths, helping them unlock their potential for love, passion, and self-expression.