Good communication isn’t about saying the perfect thing or never arguing but how you approach repairing together. It’s about slowing conversations down through tone and setting, getting curious instead of defensive, and expressing how you feel using “I” statements, such as “I felt hurt when…” rather than “You always…”. This helps your partner hear your experience without immediately feeling blamed. Remember, it’s not you versus your partner, it’s the two of you versus the problem. Communication is a skill that everyone can learn, it just takes time and effort from both sides.
How do we work on our communication?
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