How do I share a fantasy with my partner?

Asked anonymously by a reader · 22 July 2026
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SARAH OKAFOR
RELATIONSHIP & INTIMACY COACH

Choose a low-stakes moment - walking, driving, lights off - not mid-intimacy. Start one size smaller than the real thing and see how it lands; trust builds in steps. Frame it as invitation, not verdict: 'something I've been curious about' rather than 'something missing.' And decide beforehand that a hesitant reaction isn't rejection of you - surprise needs processing time. Ask about theirs too. Curiosity in both directions is what makes this safe.

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