I don't feel turned on by my partner. What can i do?

Not feeling turned on by your partner doesn’t automatically mean the relationship is over or that you’re no longer attracted to them. Desire is influenced by far more than physical attraction. In fact things like stress, resentment, routine, feeling emotionally disconnected, pain, hormonal changes, mental health, and even the pressure to “perform” around touch and sex can all impact how desire shows up. Rather than asking, “What’s wrong with me?” or “What’s wrong with us?”, try asking, “What helps me feel connected, safe, playful, or desired?” Desire often grows from safety, excitment and playfullness not a body stuck in stress or resentment.