‘I consider myself a contemporary classic. A thoroughly modern woman, I’m as comfortable discussing epistemology as I am eroticism, and I can make you laugh about both. I pride myself on being an expert in curating moments of personal indulgence and creative kink which will stay with you, long after we’ve parted ways. With a taste for vintage glamour and an eye for timeless elegance, I’m dedicated to a life of good literature, better wine and above all, enthralling company.’
Amelia Swann is an independent London BBW escort providing both GFE and kink services as a submissive and a dominant. She is most in her element when she mixes these elements, creating the hard-to-come-by kinky girlfriend experience, an encounter that feels excitingly risqué but uniquely sentimental all at the same time. As one of London’s most exceptional escorts and member of the much-loved KLE Collective, we sat down to get to know Amelia and her world a little better.
How did you get into this world?
I started escorting seven years ago. I have just started doing a PHD in London. I was struggling for money and needed something that wouldn’t take up too much of my time because I had to study. Doing a phd is quite lonely, so I wanted a job that was more social. A lot of my friends were already doing sex work, so doing escorting felt like a natural step for me. I luckily had a lot of support, with my friends showing me how to get started and giving me advice. I haven’t looked back since then.
Is there a specific service you provide?
I provide GFE and BDSM experiences. But my forte is being a kinky girlfriend, which is kind of a mix of these things. I like to be both submissive and dominant, depending on who I am with.
Did you provide this service from the start?
I have always been into BDSM. I enjoy it in my personal life as well, so it made sense to offer that.
Many escorts offer either BDSM or GFE, but I love the mix of them- the intimate eroticism laced with power play.
There’s the possibility for really interesting dynamics, and a lot of my clients are very much into it as well.
Has your relationship evolved with your escorting?
Definitely. This is the longest time I’ve ever spent in one job. I go through periods where I’m enjoying it more, other times where I’m enjoying it less. Sometimes I work more, other times it takes a back seat.
Overall, I have found escorting very interesting and very rewarding. It’s the people you get to meet, be that interesting clients or other workers.
The sex worker community is full of fascinating and passionate people.
What makes a good escort?
The whole job is about connection. I think to be a good escort you have to be able to quickly connect with people. Whether that’s in half an hour or over the course of a night- it’s about being able to easily click with people. This makes your job much easier, because then you’re comfortable and in turn, your client feels comfortable.
The escorts I work with who I think are at the top of their game are usually people who have the ability to instantly make everyone around them feel comfortable.
This requires confidence- confidence to to take charge of a social situation and steer it into the direction that you want it to go. The more you work, the more you learn how to make sure the booking is going in the direction that you want it to- it’s learning how to make a good time of every interaction and situation. Some people have this innately but you can totally learn that too.
What do you wish more people knew about escorting?
People often think they know a lot about escorting. It’s often sensationalised to being either awful and dangerous or constant glamour and fun. There’s always going to be aspects of both of these things. I wish people could see more of the boring aspects of escorting. Some bookings are incredible and will stay with me forever. But some are just mundane. If people could see the the mundanity, they might relate to it more and understand it as a job like any other.
How would you describe the atmosphere you create on your dates?
Warm. Inviting! I’m told I smile a lot!
I like my dates to be a good balance of relaxed and comfortable but with a little bit of excitement where my client doesn’t quite know what to expect.
By the end of the date, I want them to feel connected with me, like we’ve been through something very special together.
What are your favourite and least favourite parts of escorting?
Definitely the community. Spending time with other sex workers gives me a lot of joy. I learn a lot from them. Escorting has also forced me to recognise how I think about my sexuality and how I engage with my body. I like this raised level of consciousness that it has given me.
One of the most challenging things is navigating working in a landscape that is hostile towards us. We use social media to promote ourselves, but there’s the constant lurking threat of getting kicked off these platforms. You’re constantly walking on eggshells and that heightened mentality of worry is very draining and disheartening.
You’re part of KLE Collective. Tell us more!
KLE was started by a group of sex workers in 2018. We were looking at the advertising directories and a lot of full service escorts who also offer BDSM services were not run by sex workers themselves and the graphics were not very contemporary. We wanted to set up something a little different.
It’s supposed to look and work a little bit better than other directories, in terms of user experience. It’s also to provide people more of a community too, so people can get to know other workers. Many people really are disconnected and feel like they’re the only ones doing this job.
Do you have any words for escorts starting out?
Seek out other workers. Don’t operate by yourself. You need a community to support you like in any other job. Everything you are struggling with, someone else has likely already battled with. Community makes it safer, but it also makes it so much more fun! P.s. Join the sex workers union!
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Iso
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
Amelia Swann
Amelia Swann is an independent London escort, providing both BDSM and girlfriend experiences. She is also a writer, a doctor of social sciences, an avid wild swimmer, and a passionate martini expert.
