You know what they say, ‘Berlin, it’s poor but sexy‘. Originally from the South of France, I discovered Berlin 10 years ago on a family trip. It was love at first sight! Not for the beauty of the city, but for its unique spirit of freedom, creativity, and tolerance. It gave me the feeling that I could be whoever I wished to be, surrounded by people who dared to break out of social constructs, unveil their true selves, and navigate multiple identities.

I went on a quest to deconstruct societal taboos and explore how our perception of sexuality and intimacy impacts our lives. This personal journey naturally led me to change my career path and become a stage performer, sharing my “Erotic Poetry Odyssey” around the globe. I also guide people in finding new ways to develop a more creative approach to intimacy and kinks through workshops, retreats, and private experiences for couples.

Read my article on Sensuali to discover my work in depth!

Berlin has been my greatest teacher and inspiration, and I’d love to share with you my best recommendations in the city if you wish to explore new ways of experiencing pleasure, relating to others, celebrating freedom and love, or learning tools and practices to make sensuality a true art form!

My favorite sexy, queer and kinky parties

The Berlin Club-Culture is an institution in the city. After many years of oppression, Berlin experienced a burst of liberation in the ’90s and a craving to celebrate radical freedom, which still holds a very special place in the city today.

Among the wide diversity of parties, my favorite ones happen sporadically but are definitely worth the trip!

  • House of Lunacy

Every other month, Wilde Renate transforms into a queer, burlesque, extravagant cabinet of curiosities, where performers and live acts pop up, rooms transform into sensual spaces of exploration, and everyone embodies a character aligned with the theme of each edition. A very creative, sensual party that never ceases to transform.

Next events: January 30th and March 27th at Wilde Renate.

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Pro tip: Get your ticket online in advance and arrive early to avoid the long lines. Don’t buy a full costume – combine pieces to create the greatest free, burlesque, sexy, vintage version of yourself!

 

  • Pinky Promise

The most joyful, colourful and creative queer party in Berlin! Originally from the UK, Pinky Promise established new roots in the German capital with sporadic unforgettable evenings that bring together cabaret shows, intimate workshops, joyful tunes, play spaces and radically creative costumed participants!

More than a party, Pinky Promise aims to celebrate sensuality, elevate underrepresented voices and empower people with the tools to be exploratory with their sexuality, stronger with their boundaries and more nurturing with their connections.

Next Event: February 22nd 2025 at Club OST

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Pro Tip: Don’t take yourself too seriously and craft a fun outfit for the night which takes you out of your daily reality!

 

  • Tango Rouge at Kitkat Club 

Have you ever imagined taking your first Tango class in a sex club where elegance flirts with kinkiness and a touch of comedy?

Whether you are a total beginner or an advanced dancer, two time slots allow you to be guided by your partner or a lovely stranger and experiment with some sensual tango steps! It’s a beautiful way to start the night at KitKat and witness the club filling up with the most diverse and eclectic crowd you’ve ever imagined in your wildest dreams!

From tango to disco, psytrance to electro, jazz to classical, I love wandering through the multiple universes of the club or indulging in some impact playtime in the mythical BDSM corridor.

Next Event: November 16th, 2024

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Program @ Kitkat Club

Pro tip: Have dinner early, get in before the tango class to avoid any lines at the door, and enjoy watching the club transform… Or exit after the class to fill your belly and re-enter using your stamp without queuing!

 

  • FourPlay at KitKat Club

Imagine a party in which you’re not just moving your feet on the dance floor. Imagine a place full of colours and fantasy, in which you are welcomed to take part in the action.

With a rich program of though-provoking, liberating and inspiring performances, workshops and immersive acts, FourPlay invites guests to play and wonder in its multiple universes where each room becomes a temple of exploration.

A dedicated awareness team is available the whole night to ensure a safe and respectful atmosphere.

Next event: December 6th at KitKat Club

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Pro Tip: If you wish to keep a memory of your best extravagant, sexy colourful style, find the photo booth in a tiny hidden room downstairs as your phone will stay at the coatcheck!
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FourPlay. Credit antontalphoto.
  • Lunchbox Candy 

A queer heaven where every event invites your wildest self to come alive, turning nights into hazy dreams of freedom. With an eclectic lineup of performances, live acts, love rooms, and vibrant techno music, radical self-expression is celebrated among an inclusive community of queer creatures.

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Pro tip: the more the merrier! Here, you can never be “too much”!

 

  • Naked Tea Party

Nothing to wear tonight?

More than the exquisite joy of dancing in your bare essence, free from clothes and labels, the Naked Tea Party is, first and foremost, a wonderful community of beings who celebrate nudity as a liberating and playful experience that is entirely non-sexual.

From clubs to artistic spaces, the party regularly moves between multiple locations around the city!

Next events: 13th December at Sysiphos Club

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Pro Tip: Register well in advance, as events sell out quickly. You’ll need to spend a little time filling out a questionnaire, which ensures the safety and magic of this unique gathering!

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Cabaret Shows: where arts meet activism for peace and tolerance!

  • Velvet Creepers 

Combining the vintage atmosphere of a 1920’s cabaret with a queer club night, mind blowing performers, drag shows, acrobats and many more surprises… the most edgy, sensual and provocative show in Berlin!

“Like Weimar Cabaret on Acid.”

Next Show: November 24 & 25th

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Shibari. Photo @gunnarheilmann

Shibari. Credit: gunnarheilmann

  • Tipsy Bear 

With an eclectic and very creative program of shows, Tipsy Bear Bar hosts regular Queer Cabarets, Games and activists for peace and freedom amongst which YallaHafla: a collaboration between The Dervish, a fabulous Syrian belly dancer and Judy Ladivina an amazing Israeli Drag performer!
A beautifully liberating space of co-creation where politics meet arts and celebrate diversity and tolerance!

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Top sensual bodyworkers & conscious kink experts

Why consult doctors only for pain? Why not also for pleasure?

  • Tantra & Sensual Massage 

Have you ever thought about treating yourself to a timeless, healing, and deeply pleasurable journey within your own body? I’m grateful to have friends who are skilled bodywork experts, and I’ve discovered that combining friendship with intimacy creates a new level of closeness in our connections.

  1. Guiding sexual energy through the body can help release tension and emotions, resensitize the body, and offer a sensory experience where pleasure is welcomed without specific goals or expectations. Linda and Tara provide deeply healing tantric rituals for all genders. Both are also incredible dancers and performers, bringing a unique, creative approach to erotic bodywork.
  2. With deep pressure, breathing techniques, and relaxation, Alexandre Dandelion crafts tailor-made tantric and liberating sessions that align with your desires, creating a truly unique experience.
  3. From tantra massage to conscious domination and sex coaching for individuals and couples, Arika specializes in mind-body healing, offering a space for you to learn, feel, and fulfil your deepest desires.

 

  • Hypnotic Rope Bondage & Impact Play 

Combining Shibari, the Japanese art of rope bondage, with hypnotic visualizations, Hands of Eros  creates unique journeys of surrender. With a slow build in intensity and a careful approach to impact play, he invites you to connect deeply with your breath, transcending pain and discovering new, magical natural highs!

Read the whole article about my session with Hand of Eros here. 

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My experience with Hands of Eros.
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Have you ever dreamed of being fully tied and suspended for a moment of pure surrender?

My first experience of rope bondage with Kata was a deeply meditative journey where I surrendered to the subtle and intense sensations of the ropes on my skin, relaxing into their embrace and releasing tensions and emotions. Kata created a safe space that allowed me to trust and indulge in this beautifully liberating experience.

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By creating safe spaces for exploring varied states and emotions, Marcos Magagni invites you to trust and let go in a profound meditative journey of surrender in the ropes.

 

Experiences that highlight sensuality as an art form!

  • Tantra Massage 

How about learning to treat your partner to an intuitive, full-body massage that takes pleasure to brand new unknown heights? Discover new erogenous zones, learn to move sexual energy throughout the body, and cultivate it to reach new states of bliss and heightened sensations.

Paula and the wonderful team at Journey Within offer a three-level series of workshops to teach the art of Tantra Massage:

  • Level 1 introduces you to the full ritual, exploring different types of touch in a profound journey of intimacy and connection.
  • Level 2 opens doors to specialized lingam and yoni massage, equipping you with tools and techniques to unveil the mysteries of the genitals, and guiding you to craft a unique journey of pleasure and new sensations.
  • Level 3 delves into the energetic and emotional dimensions of tantra massage, helping you master this art to its fullest potential.

I completed Levels 1 and 2, and both were journeys of pure bliss, with incredible techniques I only wish I had learned as a teenager!

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Pro tip: You can attend the workshop solo or with a partner. Learning alongside a respectful, non-judgmental stranger can be incredibly liberating and empowering. You might also consider treating yourself to a tantra massage session, either individually or as a couple with the wonderful team at Journey Within. It’s a perfect way to experience this practice before learning it yourself!

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  • Shibari 

KOR Berlin is a queer-friendly space offering a variety of educational classes, workshops, individual training, and Shibari jams and performances. It’s a welcoming community where you can learn rope tying, practice, and connect with other explorative queer individuals. Weekly classes are available for beginners, intermediate levels, and special practices, all based in Neukölln.

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With views over Holzmarkt, IKSK also provides weekly Shibari classes, including “Bondage for Absolute Beginners,” intermediate levels, and Shibari jams every Tuesday. You’re welcome to come solo to watch, practice with a partner, or even be the rope bunny for a friendly stranger!
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Edgy and creative workshops for brave explorers

  • Creative Morning 

Every Friday morning, Micha Stella invites you to indulge in a lazy warm-up before sharing any of your sensual, metaphysical or emotional wishes and desires of the moment. She will choose one or more of them to create practices where you learn to give, receive and be creative in the way you relate to other humans. By combining theatrical tools, connection games, embodiment and a touch of witchcraft she invites you to trust the process to find your own keys to fulfilling your deepest desires.

Every Friday from 11-2pm (25 – 50€) at IKSK

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Pro Tip: Go with an open mind and trust your body to guide you through the experience, put limits and boundaries whenever it feels right inside of you.

 

  • The Art of Submission

Are you curious to dive deeper into the psychology and feeling of submitting to another human? There’s as many ways to dominate someone as there’s infinite human creativity. What about exploring your edges to find what type of dominance is the most inspiring to you and how do you feel about submitting to your partner or to an inspiring stranger?

After explaining the psychology and methods of dominance, Andy Buru transforms the room into a Kink theatre in which you can both be a spectator and explore your dominent and submissive personas with different humans.

This workshop taught me so much about myself and my and gave me a much more creative approach to BDSM and intimacy.

Sporadically at IKSK Berlin & in multiple other cities

3 days workshop on Power in January.

Pro tip: You can go with a partner but it is also fascinating to go alone and trust your intuition to interact with caring strangers.

  • Girls with Cocks

Have you ever fantasised pegging or being pegged? Once a month, Micha Stella opens a space of freedom and vulnerability where any human can join to share about their penetration stories and potentially experience how it feels to be in the body of the other gender.

Once a month (30-60€) at IKSK

Next workshop: January 9th

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Pro Tip: Let go expectations and let yourself be guided by the experience, nothing is expected from you except kindness and respect.

IKSK, The Institute for Body Research and Sexual Culture aims to establish a learning space for body exploration and sex-positive practices. With a philosophical and political approach to sex-positivity, IKSK offers a space that brings together theatre, dance, bodywork with a unique creative approach to sexuality.

Its extended program of workshops includes rope bondage classes and performances, pleasure practices, conscious kinks, play parties, sensual massage courses, creative play flights and philosophical colloquiums.

 

A sexy, queer and kinky shopping guide

  • BDSM Accessories 

An absolute wonderland for BDSM amateur and professionals. High quality leather goods at very affordable price and amazing advices from a very caring staff. The best place to grow your collection of whips, floggers, harnesses and leather fantasies!

McHurt – Templehofer Damm 141, 12099 Berlin (Schöneberg)

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  • Queer Shop

This very cute queer shop offers a beautiful selection of gifts, books, objects, sex-toys, clothes, artworks and more exciting colourful curiosities!

Keller Kreuzberg – Reichenbergerstraße 48, 10999 – Berlin (Kreuzberg)

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  • Queer Library 

A fabulous selection of queer and feminist literature, poetry, and philosophy, available in both English and German. The cozy coffee shop invites you to dive into your latest purchase or engage in discussion and exchange with friends—or new friends!

She Said – Kottbusser Damm 79, 10967 – Berlin

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  • Sexy-Toys & Accessories 

A very soulful and lovely selection of sex-toys, gifts, lingerie, games and sensual accessories.

Gorgeous – Schönhauser Allee 130, 10437 – Berlin (Prenzlauer Berg)

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  • Kinky Outfits 

With a lovely selection of edgy clothes and accessories made by local designers and artists, the Code invites you to explore another version of yourself and find a new style for your next kinky & sexy party!

The Code – Köpernickerstraße 79, 10179 – Berlin (Kreuzberg)

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The Code Shop. Photo: @gilishan1 Model: @gaidatanja

 

Read: Introducing Berlin-based Dominatrix: Mistress Beate.

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Pauline Marie-Antoinette

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Pauline is a poetry writer, performer, experience creator, and intimacy and kinks workshop facilitator. She believes in the power of arts and creativity to be profound vehicles for change and loves to empower people to free their inner artist and turn sensuality into a real art form. Her solo-show, "An Erotic Poetry Odyssey" is an invitation to deepen intimacy, explore conscious kinks while challenging societal taboos. Pauline designs experiences for couples, retreats and workshops in Berlin and around the world!


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