Meet Pro Domme & Kinky Model: Monstresse Nepha

I’m Monstresse Nepha: a disabled queer sadomaso domme, with a fondness for puppies and brats.

I  regularly do photoshoots as a model, I sometimes read my poetry in public and participate in zines, and more rarely I participate in fashion shows.

As soon as I started transitioning, I knew I’d turn to sex work at some point in my life, ‘cause I knew even back then that it could afford me the freedom I needed to strive as a trans disabled person with fluctuating energy, contrary to a vanilla job. So I kept meself informed about it, compiling resources I could find online, while also developing an interest for all things BDSM.

I just didn’t know it’d take more than a decade for me to finally do it. I’m 34 now, nearly 12 years into hrt and, being an overall late-bloomer, I only started having relationships later than most in life while also slowly making my way into the kinky world, first through watching performances in person and going to munches then training as a ropes bunny with a much more experienced friend.

That friend later gave me my title and became my puppy. I started sex work last year; tried doing it online at first but I couldn’t be as regular and as consistent as I’d need to so I turned to in-person work, which I’m more suited for. And it gives me much more freedom.

And as far as being a model, I never thought I could be one until I met one of my partners. Dating and getting to know them gave me such a boost in confidence, partly ‘cause they used to be a model themself, and also ‘cause they are such a wonderful person overall.

They rushed to my place to give me some advice on poses as I was about to do my first photoshoot with a professional photographer for my dominatrix ads. They pushed me to pursue that path, telling me that I could have what it takes for this work.

So, yeah, even tho I had three fashion shows and four photoshoots under my belt by then, it didn’t hit me until this year that I could pursue being a model. Now I’m on my tenth shoot for this year alone.

My disability makes it nearly impossible to ever feel rested so I usually linger a bit in bed after I wake up then either directly hop into the shower ‘cause I have some medical appointment, usually physical therapy in the morning. Otherwise just make a cuppa tea while I check my messages.

Also, as someone who used to self-describe as shy or introverted, I noticed how much I actually love meeting and getting to know people.

Pu erh tea is my biggest one, I’d say ! And I absolutely adore food. I’m a gourmet as much as a gourmand. Otherwise : books, books and… yes, more books !

My friends, definitively. I have the incredible luck to be surrounded by various folks who bring a lot of different sensual energies in my life. And I love Metaraph. Their genderfuck vibes are always a huge inspiration for me.