If you were lucky as a child, you might’ve gotten ‘the talk’ from your parents. This usually looked like an awkward, murmuring conversation where your parents explained how babies are made – ie, penetration. And this is if you were lucky. Others had to figure it out for themselves.
At school, sex education was a clinical diagram of the female anatomy and practising condom application with bananas. This left us with few measly crumbs of practical awareness, and worse, absolutely nothing about pleasure. Consequently many of us unconsciously developed narrow-minded ideas about what pleasure can be and how to experience it, with little else to reference to other than unrealistic pornos that focus heavily on penetration.
Experiencing pleasure, both sexual and non-sexual, is vital to our health and wellbeing. Now that the world is starting to realise this, more and more people are seeking the pleasure education they should have received when they were younger. These are the main ways seeking a pleasure education coach will change your life.
Enhanced self-awareness👁
Pleasure education is about slowing down and spending time with yourself to understand what you like and what make you feel good, sexually and non-sexually. You might also explore what doesn’t make you feel good so that you can try to avoid those things and set clearer boundaries. All of this leading to greater self-awareness and self-understanding not only in how to have better sexual pleasure but in living your life everyday.
Better sexual knowledge and satisfaction🧠
Yep. There’s that sex ed you didn’t get in school. Pleasure education won’t just teach you about penetrative sex, but about the many, many ways to experience and experiment with sexual pleasure. No more heteronormativity, no more focus on orgasms. You’ll cover anatomy and sexual health in more intricate detail, plus sexual orientation and identity, sexual response and how to communicate sexually. Learning all of the above is going to result in better sex and better solo pleasure experiences.
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Permission to slow down🐌
Ever try to squeeze in a 10 minute online yoga class but you just can’t seem to relax into it because there’s just so much other stuff going on in your life? Pleasure education is very much about shifting your mindset and helping you prioritise slow, daily indulgence in pleasure. Many pleasure education coaches incorporate mindful exercises into their sessions to encourage this.
Less stress and low moods👍
Pleasure education will help you to experience pleasure more often. Pleasurable experiences trigger the release of neurotransmitters such as dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins, which are known to reduce stress and promote relaxation. Lowering stress levels can contribute to better mental health, improved immune function, and reduced risk of stress-related ailments such as cardiovascular disease and hypertension.
Hormone balance⚖️
An increase in daily pleasure can influence hormone levels in the body, leading to a more balanced hormonal profile. For example, activities that promote relaxation and intimacy, such as cuddling or sexual intimacy, trigger the release of oxytocin, a hormone known for its role in bonding, stress reduction, and emotional well-being.
Heart health🫀
More pleasurable experiences, particularly those that promote relaxation and stress reduction, can have positive effects on cardiovascular health. Lowering stress levels, reducing blood pressure, and improving heart rate variability through pleasurable activities contribute to better heart health and reduced risk of heart disease.
Confidence and agency🏆
So many inferiority complexes come from an unhealthy sexual connection with ourselves. Embracing pleasure as something natural and healthy can be a huge confidence boost and gaining a good amount of knowledge and skill can provide a feeling of agency over ourselves and our desires.
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Iso
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
