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I am a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in New York City. I graduated with my Master’s in Counseling in Mental Health and Wellness and a dual degree in LGBT Health, Education, and Social Services from New York University. I also hold a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology with a background in Women and Gender Studies from George Mason University. I identify as a queer South Asian immigrant woman. I’m also neurodivergent and non-monogamous. Aside from being a therapist, I have volunteered as a crisis counselor for the Trevor Project, worked as a graduate assistant for the New York University LGBTQ+ Center, and helped in the planning of social justice conferences. I approach therapy with the intention to understand and connect with my clients as fellow humans. My own journey as a queer South Asian neurodivergent woman, along with the experiences of those close to me, deeply shape my approach. Building a genuine relationship with my clients is my top priority, as I believe it is the biggest predictor of therapeutic success. As a person of color, I actively challenge oppressive structures that have long been dominated by Western white culture. Jiddu Krishnamurti said that it is no measure of health to be adjusted to a society that is profoundly sick and I do not see therapy as a way to numb the pain that is caused by systemic oppression but rather a way to empower clients to have compassion for themselves.
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What is pleasure education?
What they didn't teach us at school.
Pleasure education, also known as sex-positive education, is a holistic approach to sexual education that emphasises the importance of understanding, experiencing, and expressing sexual pleasure in a healthy, informed, and consensual manner. It goes beyond the traditional focus on reproduction, contraception, and disease prevention to include discussions about intimacy, consent, body positivity, sexual rights, and the emotional and psychological aspects of sexual experiences. Pleasure education aims to empower individuals to make informed decisions about their sexual health and to enjoy fulfilling and respectful sexual relationships.
What makes it hot?
The importance of pleasure education lies in its ability to foster a more comprehensive and positive understanding of sexuality. By addressing the often-neglected aspects of pleasure and consent, it promotes healthier attitudes towards sex and relationships. This education helps individuals develop a better sense of self-awareness and body positivity, reduces feelings of shame and guilt associated with sexual desires, and encourages open communication between partners. Additionally, it contributes to reducing the incidence of sexual violence and coercion by emphasizing the importance of mutual consent and respect. Overall, pleasure education supports the development of healthier, more respectful, and satisfying sexual experiences.
Resources for pleasure education can be found in various places, including online platforms like Sensuali, books, workshops, and organisations dedicated to sexual health and education.
Pleasure education can be tailored to suit different age groups, ensuring that the content is age-appropriate and developmentally suitable. While young children might focus on body awareness and respect, older teens and adults can explore more in-depth topics like intimacy, consent, and sexual techniques.
Pleasure education aims to be inclusive and respectful of diverse cultural and religious backgrounds. It encourages open dialogue and understanding, allowing individuals to explore their sexuality within the context of their personal beliefs and values.
DO
Promote open communication: Encourage honest and respectful discussions about sexuality, consent, and pleasure among partners, educators, and learners.
Provide accurate information: Ensure that the information shared is fact-based, up-to-date, and sourced from reputable organisations and experts in the field.
Respect boundaries: Acknowledge and respect personal boundaries and comfort levels when discussing topics related to sexual pleasure and health.
Emphasise consent: Highlight the importance of mutual consent in all sexual activities, making it a foundational principle of pleasure education.
Celebrate diversity: Recognise and affirm the wide range of sexual orientations, identities, and experiences, promoting an inclusive and accepting environment.
DON'T
Shame or stigmatise: Avoid language or attitudes that could make individuals feel ashamed or guilty about their sexual desires or experiences.
Rely on myths: Steer clear of perpetuating common sexual myths or misconceptions; focus on providing clear, accurate, and evidence-based information.
Ignore emotional aspects: Don't overlook the emotional and psychological components of sexual pleasure, such as intimacy, connection, and mental well-being.
Exclude non-heteronormative perspectives: Ensure that pleasure education is inclusive of LGBTQ+ experiences and perspectives, rather than centring solely on heteronormative narratives.
Pressure or coerce: Avoid any form of coercion or pressure to participate in discussions or activities related to sexual pleasure; participation should always be voluntary and consensual.