I want to know if your okay with a beginner who doesnt know his own likes and dislikes.

I genuinely enjoy working with people who are new to BDSM and are still discovering what they like and don’t like. Helping newcomers explore their kinks at their own pace and with clear communication is one of the things I find most rewarding. I also love sharing a strong foundation in consent, boundaries, and BDSM do’s and don’ts so they can feel informed and comfortable.

Absolutely. That’s actually a big part of the work I do.

I don’t expect you to come in knowing what you like or don’t like. That’s what we’re here to explore. My job isn’t to tell you what you should enjoy, but to help you become more curious about yourself, your desires, your boundaries, and how you experience things.

We start with conversation, education, and building trust. From there, we explore at a pace that makes sense for you. There’s no rushing, no expectations, and nothing you have to prove.

For me, this work is about self-awareness and empowerment. Learning not just what you enjoy, but why, how, and under what circumstances.

My work is very beginner friendly! It's all education and support for you to come home to your most authentic, embodied self

I work with lots of beginners/first-timers.

I encourage my clients to give feedback through breath, body language and words and make sure that they tolerate nothing and feel empowered to use their words.

In my session, I lead. So I tell my clients that their only job is to breathe and feel. And if they are thinking too much, got back to the heart.

And sessions are a great way to discover what your turn ons and avoids. I tell clients feedback is valuable and that I don’t take it personally.

It’s always ok to be a beginner. I think there should be more celebration and support around the bravery to try something new- to start asking questions. Exploring and discovering your desires (and your boundaries) is a beautiful, tender, joyous and empowering process. I love to work with people just starting out. I’ll show you the menu and the options and you can feel into what sparks your interest. We will try things, and you can always stop / shift / pivot until we find what lights you up. ❤️

It is completely okay. In fact, it is one of the best and most honest places to start. ​When you don’t yet know your own likes and dislikes, you aren't bringing a heavy script or rigid expectations to the table. Instead, you get to explore with genuine curiosity. Think of it as starting with a blank canvas—you don't need to have everything figured out right away; the whole point is to discover what feels good, authentic, and natural to you as you go. ​Here are a few gentle things to keep in mind as you begin: ​Curiosity over certainty: You don't need to force an answer or fake a preference. If someone asks what you like, it is entirely fine to say, "I'm still figuring that out, but I'm open to exploring." ​Permission to change your mind: What feels interesting or comfortable today might feel completely different next week, and that is how growth works. Preferences evolve the more you experience. ​Paying attention to small signals: When you try something new, focus on the physical and emotional feedback. Does this feel energizing? Does it feel awkward? Does it bring a sense of ease? Those small reactions are your compass. ​Taking the first step into self-expression or body confidence can feel a little intimidating, but you don't need to have all the answers on day one.

I love working with people new. And I mean new to all of this. That could mean new to meeting a provider, new to kink, new to bdsm, new, new, new. In the past few months something unexpected has happened naturally. I have been asked independently by several women, women who say they are not into pain, not into BDSM, not into impact play, are not masochists, to whip them, to introduce them to whipping. I do have a unique and gentle approach, if it can be said that a whip can caress, but yes, I delight in opening people up in a gentle way to a world of sensation and body feeling that can also open up the mind and open all of us to a deeper exploration. We listen, together, and explore.

If you are unsure about your own boundaries, just communicate that with the provider that you are inquiring with. Saying "I have no limits" makes you seem unserious to most professionals. Instead, clearly your lack of experience and anything you might be concerned about (most people do not want to leave with permanent marks, mutilation, and a lot of other common activities). From there, most professionals can help you discover where your limits and boundaries are, in a safe environment.

Everyone has to start somewhere, so it's okay to not know all your likes or dislikes. Erotic or tantric sessions are partly for discovering more about yourself and a professional practitioner will always check with you what you like or not, before, during and after the session. But we will expect you to express your proces when asked about it, also when you are in doubt or don't know how to react. Your doubt and nervousness are just as welcome as your curiosity and eagerness to explore. But also your willingness to accept a refusal about some things you might like and we don't. No practitioner is alike and we might not like all things you'd like done to you.

Feel very welcome and seen!

Absolutely, and please don't feel that you need to know your likes and dislikes before coming for a male-to-male sensual massage. In fact, exploring what you enjoy, what feels comfortable and how you respond to different types of touch is one of the main reasons men come to see me.

I've been working with men exploring their sexuality, sensuality and intimacy for over 20 years, and many men arrive with little or no previous experience of intimate massage with a man. Some are curious, some are nervous, and others simply want to discover a different side of themselves without any expectations or labels.

My approach is always relaxed, friendly, respectful and completely non-judgemental. We begin with a conversation about your interests, any concerns you may have and your personal boundaries. You don't need to have all the answers. We can discover those together.

During the massage, I will guide you through the experience, checking that you're comfortable and encouraging you to communicate what feels good, what doesn't and anything you're curious about exploring.

There is never any pressure to experience particular sensations, become aroused or participate in anything you're uncomfortable with. You can always ask questions, change your mind or stop at any point.

Importantly, you don't need to identify as gay or bisexual to enjoy male-to-male sensual massage. Many men are simply curious about receiving intimate touch from another man, and that curiosity is perfectly natural.

My aim is to help you relax, feel safe and discover more about your own sensual responses, preferences and boundaries.

So being a complete beginner is absolutely fine. In many ways, it makes the experience particularly interesting because you can approach it with an open mind and no preconceived expectations.

You're very welcome, exactly as you are, and we will take everything at a pace that feels right for you.

It's more than ok, in fact one of the things I enjoy the most about this work is opening the doors to beginners and holding their hand as they discover themselves and what they like. As for my rope and sensory session, no experience is needed whatsoever, just a willingness and openness to receive.