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Real questions about intimacy, pleasure and connection — answered by trusted Sensuali practitioners.
How do I let someone in close after a long relationship/marriage?
Very slowly. It's important to not overwhelm your nervous system with moving towards intimacy and connection too quickly. Identify and share your specific needs. It's okay to say, I'm learning and change your mind at any point during an
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How do I put myself out there again?
It's been years since i connected to new people. How do I start again?
Check out Sensuali Events to start. There's a lot of events that can help you with connecting with people in an unpressured, sober, and intentional space. Come curious and willing to connect with people without expectations.
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How do I begin again after my marriage ended?
How do I feel desirable again?
How do I feel at ease in my own skin?
How do I stop being self conscious during sex?
How can i reconnect to my own body sensually?
How do I feel sexy again?
Can i increase my sex drive during menopause?
Yes! But it's not as simple as going on hormone replacement therapy. How much libido ('sex drive') we experience during menopause is influenced by a whole web of factors beyond simply hormones. How much time we have for ourselves in our
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Why does sex hurt during menopause?
Does sex drive come back after menopause
Yes, it can! Menopause is a life stage, not the end. In fact in some studies couples in their 50s and 60s report higher sexual satisfaction than those in their 30s and 40s. How much libido ('sex drive') we experience during menopause and
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What is perimenopause doing to my desire?
In perimenopause, the web of bio-psycho-social factors that determine our libido can face challenges from all sides. Our hormone levels are fluctuating like crazy, affecting our moods and sleep, which directly affects desire; we might be
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What is it that I actually want in sex and intimacy?
I love this question because we often spend so much time focusing on what we think we should want sexually rather than asking ourselves what we genuinely enjoy. Many of our ideas about sex come from our culture, past relationships
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Is it normal for my desire to come and go?
Absolutely. In fact, sexual desire naturally fluctuates throughout life, and it’s completely normal for it to come and go and having periods of no interest can be completely normal. In fact, expecting your libido to stay the same forever
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Does my desire just work differently?
Yes, it might, and I love answering this question because one of the biggest myths about sexual desire is that everyone experiences it in the same way. In reality, desire isn’t one-size-fits-all, and there is so much complexity to it. Some
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Why have i lost interest in sex?
I feel numb during sex - what can i do?
Firstly, I am so sorry you feel this way about intimacy and sex. I would encourage you to understand better what feeling “Numb” means for you. Is it a lack of physical sensation? Feeling emotionally disconnected? Mentally checked out? Or
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Does desire return after menopause?
Yes - for many women it does, sometimes in better shape than before. What rarely works is waiting for the old spontaneous desire to reappear on its own; post-menopause desire usually needs to be invited: more warm-up, deliberate sensuality
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Why has my libido disappeared?
Rarely for one reason - usually several stacked: exhaustion, stress, hormonal shifts, medication (antidepressants and some contraceptives are frequent culprits), an unresolved thing in the relationship, or simply a body you don't feel at
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Can stress make desire disappear?
Completely - it's one of the most reliable desire-killers there is. A stressed body is set to survive, not to open up; that's biology doing its job. Chronic stress also steals the ingredients desire needs: sleep, headspace, feeling playful.
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How do I reconnect with my sense of pleasure?
Start further back than you think - not with sex, with sensation. Pleasure lives in a body that feels safe and noticed, so begin there: warm water, slow stretching, music that moves you, food you actually taste. No goal, no partner agenda
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