After exploring the art of Tantra massage with a male friend, I felt curious to experience this practice from a different energy. I decided to treat myself to a session with a female professional, the wonderful Sonja (also known as Arika).

When I arrived at her space, we began with a gentle conversation. She asked me how I was feeling emotionally, physically and if I had any specific intention for the session. This already felt so nurturing.

More than just a massage, Tantra is a holistic approach that touches body, mind, and soul. It’s a way to reconnect, to feel, and to release what we often hold deep inside without even noticing.

I shared my current emotional state: anxiety, tension, and a strong desire to open up and let go. We both wrapped ourselves in a longhi, and before touching the body, she guided a short meditation. We connected through our breath, grounding ourselves in each other’s presence. It was tender and peaceful.

Lying on my front, I began to feel her hands slowly exploring my back. Sonja’s touch was deeply intuitive, she seemed to know exactly where I was holding tension. Her movements helped the energy flow from my feet to my head and back down again.

It was both relaxing and revitalizing. Then she turned me onto my back and began massaging my face, something so rare and yet incredibly soothing.

She used both soft strokes and deep pressure to release my jaw, one of the most overlooked places we store tension. It was one of the many highlights of the session.

She continued massaging my whole body, from feet to shoulders, carefully avoiding direct genital contact at first and simply contouring, awakening sensitivity around my yoni. I felt waves of energy moving through me, and my body started to open more and more into her care.

One of the most touching aspects of this session was how safe I felt. There is something so healing about receiving intimate, mindful touch from another woman: free of expectation, free of performance. It reminded me how beautiful and powerful female-to-female intimacy can be, especially when held in such a respectful, sacred way.

When her hands came closer to my yoni, I noticed subtle shivers: my sensitivity had grown so much. Without even direct contact, I could already feel pleasure running through me. Sonja gently asked for my consent before touching my genitals. I agreed, and she began massaging with slow, loving pressure.

I felt waves of diffuse pleasure building up, flowing across my whole body. The fact that I didn’t need to give anything back, that I was only here to receive was such a gift. It allowed me to fully surrender to the experience.

After a while, she softly asked if I wished for her to enter me with a finger. I said yes. She simply placed her finger at the entrance and invited me to suck it in using my pelvic muscles.

That moment was incredibly powerful! Instead of being penetrated, my body was inviting her in. It felt so natural and respectful and a practice I wish to implement in my sexuality. 

Inside, she moved slowly, showing me different tension points I didn’t even know existed. With her guidance, I breathed into these areas and felt them slowly release.

It helped me connect with my Yoniverse: the complexity, the sensitivity, the mystery. I discovered new sensations and felt so supported through the whole process.

She then slowly removed her finger and returned to gently massaging the outer parts of my vulva. I entered a state of natural high, a kind of body-led meditation, full of colors, warmth, and energy.

I even had some soft, psychedelic-like visions. I was floating in the present moment, feeling held, seen, and cared for in such a vulnerable and intimate space.

Sonja closed the session by placing her hands on my heart and reconnecting with my breath. We returned to stillness together. I stayed lying down for a while, just absorbing this wave of energy and gratitude. My whole body was buzzing.

This session was not just pleasurable, it was deeply healing. It helped me release old tensions, move emotions, and connect to my sensuality in a completely new way. It inspired me to approach intimacy with more slowness, presence, and care and to make bodywork a true part of my sexual journey.

I genuinely believe that every human and especially women should experience this kind of touch and presence at least once in her life. The connection between women in a safe, conscious space is something so powerful.

You can face trauma and difficult memories together because females still carry so much of it. And no matter which topic you bring: from endometriosis, mooncycle based difficulties, abuse, heartbreak, fears, fetish: Sonja is firm in all these topics and will listen and hold you with love and knowledge.

Joy is essential to the work and you most likely will be  feeling lighter. Learning tantra massage with a partner or receiving it from a trained professional can be a beautiful way to explore intimacy beyond the usual patterns to make it sacred, connected, and free from pressure.

About Sonja:

Sonja is a certified systemic sex & couples therapist, and soon to be systemic trauma therapist.  She is a well trained Tantra massage practitioner and teacher for 5 years. She’s also skilled in Shiatsu, sex-ed, and tantric practices. She offers online coaching, in-person sessions in Berlin, and workshops abroad, supporting both individuals and couples in creating more fulfilling intimate lives.

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Pauline Marie-Antoinette

Author

Pauline is a poetry writer, performer, experience creator, and intimacy and kinks workshop facilitator. She believes in the power of arts and creativity to be profound vehicles for change and loves to empower people to free their inner artist and turn sensuality into a real art form. Her solo-show, "An Erotic Poetry Odyssey" is an invitation to deepen intimacy, explore conscious kinks while challenging societal taboos. Pauline designs experiences for couples, retreats and workshops in Berlin and around the world!