Whether you’re a dominatrix by profession or just enjoy putting your hands around the neck of your loved one from time to time, these handpicked-by-yours-truly tunes will get you in the mood for some serious sadist shenanigans. Special shoutout to Killer Queen and Femme Fatale; they didn’t make the list, but they’re still great dom bops, if you want something a bit more light-hearted.
- Love Sick (People Theatres Romeo Remix) – The Horrorist
If you like some heavy techno with a side of sadism, NYC artist The Horrorist is the dude for you. His growling electro voice paired with the heavy, deep undercurrent of noise is about as creepy as it gets. Play it as you’re tying up your sub in a dark, dark room. Or on Halloween.
- Love Surrounds You – Ramsay
This song starts soft and gets incredibly explosive very suddenly. The seething whispering vocals and heavy instrumental would make the perfect backing track to some sort of vampire attack movie scene. So naturally, a perfect BDSM bop.
- Kool Thing – Sonic Youth
‘Hey, Kool Thing, come here, sit down beside me, there’s something I gotta ask you. I just want to know, what are you gonna do for me?’ Everyone knows this iconic part of Kool Thing. And if you don’t, get to know it. There’s something so tantalising about this song, and the heavy rock instrumental makes it a great song to get ready to before a sesh.
- She Makes You Weak – Phoebe Green
Manchester based artist Phoebe Green released her first album 2:00AM independently at the age of 18. However the songs aren’t as innocent as you might suspect. This featured track is deceptive with its dreamy soft piano and soprano vocals- listen to the lyrics and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by their dark nature.
- What You Need – The Weeknd
It’s as clear as day that Abel Tesfaye ie The Weeknd is dom in bed. It’s literally a fact. He knows exactly how to set that gentle yet domineering mood in his songs. As his soft muted vocals sing: ‘I’m the drug in your veins, just fight through the pain’ the whirring instrumental lulls you into his master-eqsue mood.
- Snakes – Sorry
Something about Asha Lorenz’s very British angelic voice which occasionally drops an octave to sound kind of possessed just screams sadism to me. Because this song has an element of sweetness to it, it suits the sort of dom who looks like the most innocent little thing, but deep down has a real sadist streak. You know the type.
- I Put A Spell On You – Alice Spall
Perfect for an emotionally invested sub/dom relationship. Play this song as you’re ever so gently dripping candle wax onto your loved one’s body. It’ll go down a treat.
- Tame – Pixies
Is any voice on Earth as menacing as Black Francis’? I don’t think so. His hissed verses: ‘I’m making good friends with you…’ sound like a bomb waiting to go off. And the bomb does go off every time the chorus sounds and he shrieks out.. ‘TAAAAME’. Listen to it on the way to your dominatrix outcall. By the time you arrive you’ll be pumped.
- FYT – This Mortal Coil
The heavy beat and melody in this track is so repetitive that it starts to feel quite unforgiving. Beautifully atmospheric as always with strange whooshing sounds and low earthy rumbles, This Mortal Coil manages to create a track that would sound perfect rippling against the walls of your underground dungeon as you begin to play with your prisoner.
- The Perfect Girl – Mareux
Yes, it’s a TikTok song. Does that make it any less credible? Well, maybe. At the end of the day, this is a great song to play with someone you’re just getting to know and whom you suspect might be a sub. Whilst it’s undeniably dark with vampire-y vibes, there’s also something quite intense about it. Perfect for that getting-to-know-you stage.
- Green Grass – Tom Waits
The huskiest of husky voices belongs to Tom Waits. And it seems so incredibly #sadistic when he sings out: ‘Come closer, don’t be shy.’ It’s not just lusty, it’s actually quite a sad and romantic song, so better to play with a sub that you have a bit of history with.
- Paradise Circus – Massive Attack
The ultimate dominatrix bop. ‘Look at her with a smile like a flame.’ If this doesn’t get your sub melting to their knees, what possibly will? The measured beat, the soft silky voice, the build towards the end…10/10. Perfect to play during a proper session.
- When I Was Older – Billie Eilish
Billie’s tunes are another pretty safe bet for bondage beats. Though she wrote this song as a part of the Roma soundtrack, which definitely isn’t about BDSM, it’s one of her slower and more atmospheric tracks, with an undercurrent of simmering anger making it perfect for sadists. A great song to start a session off.
- Distant Fantasies – Kid Cudi
Looking for the hip-hop answer to BDSM? Kid Cudi’s your boy. His trademark low hums sound especially dark in this track along with the formidable beat. The song is laced with elements of secrets, lies and jealousy and yet a very close bond between two people. In other words the perfect recipe for explosive sex! I die every time it gets to the bit where he whispers ‘My leg’s shaking, she says. He grabs the back of her neck.’ Definitely play it with a sub who deserves to be punished.
- Follow Me Down – Tracey Thorn
There’s something that feels quite haunting about this song. Tracey’s soft voice singing ‘I’ll be your guide, stay by my side, and follow me all the way down.’ sets the tone for sadism. The thing about BDSM is that there’s a huge element of trust involved with the element of pain. Therefore, it’s something that is not just rough and mindless, but truly intimate, just like this track.
Iso
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Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
