Don’t worry, this isn’t a list quickly complied from the internet because they contain BDSM words in the title, cough cough I’m a Slave 4 U (no shade Britney). Here are fifteen tunes that all contain that strange mix of tenderness and darkness that is perfect for getting you in a kinky mood.
Papi Pacify – FKA Twigs
The entirety of FKA Twigs’ discography is so beautifully intimate that many of her songs deserve a place on this list. Her angelic vocals here are contrasted gorgeously against the heavy industrial sounds. Twigs says the song is about a messed up relationship, but finding the fact that it’s messed up kind of sexy. We can all relate. Listen on Apple Music
Baby’s On Fire – Brian Eno
Apparently the song is actually nothing to do with sex, but that guitar solo and Brian Eno’s menacing voice singing ‘they said you were hot stuff, and that’s what baby’s been reduced to’ sure feels sexy and submissive. Listen, and imagine you’re in a room full of people who all want to do very bad things to you. Listen on Apple Music
Put Me In A Movie – Lana Del Rey
Oh come on, you really thought you could get through this list without at least one Lana song featured? This one is back when she went by the name of Lizzy Grant, when her songs were a bit more risqué. It’s only available on Youtube (like all the best songs).
Dissolved Girl – Massive Attack
Massive Attack is the ultimate bondage band. Perfect for play sessions. This song reflects on how love and pain seem to inevitably intertwine. Listen on Apple Music.
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Whatever You Like – Anya Marina (cover)
T.I.’s original bop may not scream ‘I want to be dominated in bed’, but Anya Marina’s cover absolutely does. Her soft voice contrasting with the lyrics that coming out of a woman’s mouth suddenly seem so sensual = sexiest song ever. An absolute go-to for anyone who’s pleased to please. Listen on Apple Music.
Teenage Lust – The Jesus and Mary Chain
‘Little skinny girl, she’s doing it for the first time’ is the first line that comes out of Jim Reid’s mouth in a slow breathy drawl. Enough said. Listen on Apple Music.
High For This – The Weeknd
The Weeknd’s music was made for BDSM, especially the tracks on his Trilogy album. Any true submissive is bound to obsess over Abel. His haunting vocals on this one will give you chills. Listen on Apple Music.
Le Blues de Francoise – La Femme
Again, not a song about sex, or BDSM, but it’s so intensely hypnotic that it absolutely deserves to be played whilst somebody very slowly ties you up. Listen on Apple Music.
Pretty Dark – Grimes
‘Yeah you own me, like you own the world’ Grimes is a submissive icon- whether she likes it or not! Listen on Apple Music.
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The Chauffeur – Duran Duran
There is something both erotic and sinister about this song. It sounds like whispered secrets and hairs that stand up on the back of your neck. It sounds like the beginning of a never ending night. Listen to it when you’re leaving the house and imagine what your dom is going to do to you later that night. Listen on Apple Music.
Sweet Dreams – Emily Browning
The original is just as good in its own way, but here’s a lesser known cover from the ‘Sucker Punch’ soundtrack. It’s slower and sexier- always a good thing. Listen on Apple Music.
Gentleman – July Talk
The soft dreamy vocals of Leah Fay contrasting with Peter Dreimanis’ thunderous Tom Waits-esque voice is absolutely breathtaking in this song about desperation and power. Go to see them live and witness the ridiculous amount of sexual tension between the duo. Listen on Apple Music.
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Gouge Away – Pixies
Although the song is clearly inspired by the biblical story of Samson, there’s something that seems inherently sadomasochistic about it. Black Francis screaming so violently ‘ You break my arms, you spoon my eyes’…It’s kind of hot. The live version is even better. Listen on Apple Music.
Stargirl Interlude – The Weeknd Ft. Lana Del Rey
A collab between The Weeknd and Lana Del Rey is bound to create the sexiest song ever. Lana’s siren-esque voice wailing ‘And I shouldn’t cry, but I love it’, is too good. If this doesn’t get you in the mood, nothing will. Listen on Apple Music.
The Moth & The Flame – Les Deux Love Orchestra
These lyrics might hit home for many subs out there. A sense of melancholy is evoked from the idea that as a submissive experiencing the pain is more important than who causes it. A little bit more of an introspective one, listen to it alone. Listen on Apple Music.
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