'I've learned that though my specific kinks may change, I am kinky as a sexual orientation.' Meet Sophia Domina, the LA-based Dominatrix, writer, director and producer.
‘I was a forced into a Christian cult at 12. Became a missionary on Guam. Broke free in 2018 and began a new life in LA when I found myself on a date with a lifestyle Dominatrix who dubbed me a “Baby Domme.”‘
Sophia Domina is a Dominatrix, writer, director and event producer based in LA. She offers services in-person and online such as role play, discipline, sex therapy and immersive theatre. Her new erotica novel ‘Domme & Dommer’ is available to buy here.
Could you introduce yourself and what you do?
I am a Los Angeles pro Dominatrix, event producer, filmmaker, and author of “Domme & Dommer,” my forthcoming erotica novel.
How would you describe your approach to Domming?
Meet LA Dominatrix: Sophia Domina
I embody the feminine divine in the archetypes of Queen, Mother, and Disciplinarian with a bit of a sadistic streak. I am naturally sensual and feline.
I enjoy the theatre of kink and the depth of passion and desire that can be expressed in the safe space I engender for submissives. I practice SSC/RACK and I tailor my sessions very particularly to reflect the unique kink sync with each respective client.
What specific services do you offer in session?
I offer a variety of experiences at Domton Abbey, my penthouse “dungeon.” I always start out with slave positions training.
Submissives provide domestic service (cooking, cleaning, handyman projects), foot worship, and pampering (bathing, massage). I offer impact play, latex worship, sissification, feminization, and humiliation, to name a few! I adore role play, CFNM, and all types of objectification.
I do digital Domming via text, email, phone, and video.
Sophia Domina.
What was your journey into this world?
I was a forced into a Christian cult at 12. Became a missionary on Guam. Broke free in 2018 and began a new life in LA when I found myself on a date with a lifestyle Dominatrix who dubbed me a “Baby Domme.”
I knew very little about sex, much less BDSM, but I had been an Alpha all my life. D/s was a language I had been innately practicing without knowing the words.
I began learning from her, developing relationships in the lifestyle until I went pro in 2021.
I ficitionalized my wild transformation in my debut erotica novel, “Domme & Dommer.”
What makes a session special to you?
Connection. Creating a safe space for someone to express a vulnerable, hidden part of themselves. My submissives journal to me beforehand and it provides a window into their core motivations. It is special for them because it reveals things they may have never been aware of deep in their psychosexuality.
What is a small and unexpected pleasure about being a domme?
Sophia Domina.
Presenting myself as a Domme to the world has strengthened my love of self and confidence. It has emboldened me to stand up to toxic masculinity and advocate for myself in ways I might not so readily do!
I also love mentoring women into their own power, whether they are dominant or submissive.
Tell us something that you wish more people knew about being a domme?
Domination is very nurturing and healing. I am not a huge sadist, but even in sadism, there can come healing and empowerment.
The Domme/sub dynamic is intimate and unique, often helping people touch parts of themselves even therapy may not.
Sophia Domina.
What have you learned about yourself and secondarily, about life from domming?
I’ve learned that though my specific kinks may change, I am kinky as a sexual orientation. It’s very much like being queer. I was born this way, my parents nurtured a playful, dominant spirit in me (before the cult) and I can’t go back to trying to conform to society’s sexual or behavioral definition of a woman.
All people are a mix of Alpha and beta qualities. It’s helpful to self-examine and lean into the areas where you want to be more commanding or more yielding!
Advice for newbie dommes?
Spend time playing with your friends and lovers. Read not only about domination but psychology, especially the shadow self (Jungian psychology). Experiment. And session with experienced Dommes. Real domination begins in the mind, so start there rather than just with impact play skill sets.
Sophia Domina.
Anything else you want to add? Please do here.
I produce workshops and events where female pleasure is centered. My next event is my Boudoir Book Launch for “Domme & Dommer.”
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
Sophia Domina
Author
Sophia Domina is a writer, director, pro Domme, and event producer. She enjoys the theatre of kink and the depth of passion and desire that can be expressed in the safe space she engenders for submissives. She also produces play parties, female domination workshops, and is the author of erotica book, 'Domme & Dommer.'
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