I’m Lulu, a COSRT-registered clinical sexologist & BACP-registered psychotherapist based in the Cotswolds.

I work with individuals, couples and polycules online globally and F2F in workshops and retreats. I help people understand their intimate relationships, desires, kinks & fetishes, develop their erotic intelligence, loosen old sexual scripts and build intimacy that feels honest and alive.

My approach is psychodynamic and attachment-informed: warm, curious and grounded in clinical training. My Erotic Intelligence Programme guides clients through three stages: auditing their intimate lives, transforming what isn’t working and integrating the change.

I work with all psychosexual themes including:

Specific sexual interests (BDSM, kinks and fetishes)
Sex worker support
Consensual non-monogamy/Polyamory/Open relationships
Sexual compulsions and pornography issues
Orgasm problems
Vaginismus, Dyspareunia, Anodyspareunia
Erection/ejaculation problems
Low sexual desire, challenges with desire and loss of arousal
Sexual desire discrepancies
Pain during sex and penetration difficulties
Sexual trauma, sexual abuse and assault
Relationship problems e.g. arguing / affairs / communication
Couples therapy, marriage counselling, relationship therapy
Sex, gender, erotic and relationship identity concerns
Questioning and/or exploring sexuality