Hi, I'm Paul. The women who come to me are all different, and each one teaches me something new. Some come curious, wanting to understand their own desire and pleasure more deeply. Others have lost interest in sex, or feel very little, and talking about it hasn't changed that. Some come carrying trauma, or have barely any experience of positive touch. And some are drawn to Tantra as a spiritual path through the body.

You are always in control. You set the pace. You decide what happens, what doesn't, and when. I can offer possibilities and bring structure when it's helpful, but the direction always comes from you.

We always start with a conversation about how you're feeling and what you'd like. Some sessions are mostly talking. Some involve gentle touch, and some include tantric or yoni massage. One client and I spent over 90 minutes designing an activity that lasted a couple of minutes, and that was exactly right for her. Anything intimate is agreed with you beforehand, and I check again just before a yoni massage that it's still what you want. You can ask for something different, or stop, at any moment. I typically stay dressed, and there's no goal and no expectation of orgasm.

I also work with couples, building intimacy, connection and touch in your relationship, and then bringing that into deeper forms of lovemaking.

I came to this work as part of my own spiritual path (I've practised Tantra since 2017 and have a daily practice), and through working with a woman who'd experienced sexual assault as a teenager. Walking alongside her through that healing showed me the devastating effects men can have on women, and it was the most meaningful work I'd ever done. So I trained and qualified as a Sexological Bodyworker and joined a professional association with a code of ethics.

I'm a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, a member of the ACSB (Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers) and of ASIS (Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists). I work in a trauma-informed way, trained in Somatic Trauma Therapy with Babette Rothschild, and I also draw on the Wheel of Consent and Clean Language. This isn't psychotherapy. It's learning and experience, and it works well alongside therapy: many of my clients create experiences and practices with me and then explore them with their therapist. I work under professional supervision and have professional indemnity insurance.

I work in person in London and online. The first step is a free 60-minute Zoom chat, where you can ask anything you'd like and we can discover together whether, how and when to begin.

“I felt so honoured, seen and safe. I felt incredible. I still can’t get over the warm waves of sensation in my body. I can’t believe the change: this morning I woke so calm. I’m holding myself with compassion. I feel like a woman that is worthy of love.” — Jennifer

“I had never enjoyed the sexual aspect of relationships due to self-consciousness about how I looked and deep-rooted shame about seeking and experiencing pleasure. I often felt pain or discomfort during sex… Paul always ensured the touch was directed by me and at my own pace… I now know there is a world where my body can be seen positively and sex can be more than confusing and frustrating.” — Sophie

“I had severe trust issues with men due to previous trauma but the sessions I received from Paul were so loving and nurturing. He made me feel cherished, seen, attractive but, most importantly of all, safe… Paul is incredibly sensitive, patient and loving. I feel I have made huge progress and feel ready to embark on a new relationship after keeping myself closed down for so many years.” — Elizabeth