Meet LA dominatrix: Miss Mae Ling

Could you introduce yourself and what you do?

I am a silly human that loves to play and find the lightness within life.

What was your journey into this world?

I was introduced into the BDSM realm after attending a rope workshop, 10 years ago. From there the rope rigger took me to a dungeon play party and I was like a kid in a candy store. Since then I dove straight in with learning from multiple play partners and trying my hand at a variety of fetishes and kinks.

I traveled the world for 4 years and experienced the kink culture and culture in a uniquely tailored manner. All leading me here; traveling the world as I please as an international professional dominatrix with others bending over backwards to please me.

What specific services do you offer in session?

Both online and in person are offered, with priority for in person.

My all time favorite kinks to explore are adult diapers, forced bi, full toilet training and group sessions with my friends or with my female submissive.

What makes a session special to you?

Every time someone is truly vulnerable and trusts you, the connection is something that words can merely shine light on. It is a feeling of comfort and safety where you feel liberated, seen and heard in all aspects of who you are. To find and feel this in a fear driven world where people are judged and ridiculed by others who are projecting their own insecurities onto others is relieving.

What is a small and unexpected pleasure about being a domme?

It has been a wonderful path of meditation for myself. In order to be a good Domme, I needed to know myself – my desires, my wants, my excitements. A path of understanding, accepting and celebrating myself. The beauty of being and existing is not only enough, but an overflowing joy of love.

How would you describe your domme style?

Pretty unique.

Tell us something that you wish more people knew about BDSM?

That it can look and feel different from person to person, scene to scene and beyond. It can consist of minute details or be elaborate as a weekend getaway. It is flexible and shifts often, to adapt and highlight life itself. People interface this way throughout everyday life with various power dynamics, whether they agree or see that it is a form of BDSM is up to them.

What have you learned about yourself and secondarily, about life from domming?

The things I’ve learned about myself and about life are both the same.

The more I deny someone of something, the more I say ‘no’, the hotter it gets.

The more money I make, the more excited I get, the more taboo it seems, the moment a yes occurs, it is like fireworks. An authentic true yes, where every single cell in your body is jumping with joy that this moment has come! And that makes it all the more precious.

Advice for newbie dommes?

Learn the foundations of BDSM and the psychology of it and then find your own flavor. Try it once, maybe twice or maybe even a third time with a different person or even at a later time. Your boundaries change as you evolve and it could very much be that a certain someone will bring out that dark side of you.

Be yourself as that will attract the right people to you which will energize you rather than exhaust you. It’s your world after all, you get to choose who gets to be in it.

Closing thoughts?

If you’re not having fun doing it, why are you doing it?