Tantric bodywork sessions: meet The Tantric Woman

Tell us about yourself and how you got into Tantra.

I’m Jo, aka The Tantric Woman. I’m based in London, where I offer tantric massage and bodywork, as well as sex coaching for both men and women. I started offering tantric bodywork sessions a few years ago, but my journey into conscious sexuality and Tantra began around nine years ago.

I first discovered this world through a practice called orgasmic meditation.

The organisation behind it became controversial, but the practice itself taught me a lot about being present with my sexual energy and using it in a way that brought my body nourishment and love, something I hadn’t really experienced before.

Through that experience, I went on to explore coaching and began to realise just how important touch could be. I discovered a practice called ‘liquid love’, where you glide over each other’s bodies with oil.

I remember having an incredible intimate experience with someone that involved no penetration. It was purely about two bodies coming together and meeting one another. It really changed my life. I had never felt so nourished by intimacy before.

From there, I wanted to make my practice more physical and offer others what I had experienced myself. I find the transmutation of energy incredibly powerful, simply connecting with someone who is fully present and conscious can create a profound shift.

I trained in tantric massage and began exchanging sessions with another practitioner, so I could experience receiving as well as giving. I noticed that after each session I felt lighter, more energised, more creative and more intuitive.

We live in a society where we often assume that sexual intimacy must involve penetration. But there is so much more to touch and sensuality than penetrative sex. My London-based tantric bodywork sessions are not only about healing our relationship with sexual energy, but also about cultivating more of it and learning to source that energy within ourselves.

For me, there’s nothing quite like the transformative power of Tantra. In some ways, I see it as a form of embodied healing. You don’t necessarily need to speak. As a practitioner, I take care of my own energy through journalling, cleansing and other practices so that I can be fully present with my clients.

How often would you recommend having a tantric massage?

Everyone is different. I once worked with a 29-year-old man who had lost his libido. He told me he was with a beautiful woman but no longer felt aroused, and was considering taking Viagra. I suggested he explore tantric massage as another way of reconnecting with his body.

He told me that after our session, he felt connected to his sexual energy for the first time in a long while. Sometimes a single session can be meaningful for someone, while other clients choose to return regularly, even weekly.

If someone feels disconnected from their sexual energy, or is carrying difficult emotional experiences, I may recommend a series of three sessions, either weekly or fortnightly. These can involve bodywork and de-armouring practices, including work around the pelvic area, depending on the person’s boundaries and what feels appropriate for them. I believe we can hold a great deal of tension in these areas, often more than we realise.

Work around the anus can also be very stimulating for men. Some are initially hesitant because of the stigma surrounding that part of the body, but exploring it in a safe and consensual setting can open them up to new sensations, and sometimes even full-body orgasms.

I also offer mastery sessions, which focus on helping people become more aware of their sexual energy and how they connect with a partner.

When someone is very much in their head during sex, they can become focused on achieving a particular outcome, such as making their partner orgasm. There’s a big difference between that goal-driven approach and being genuinely present, curious and interested in exploring another person’s body and pleasure.

I also think some people become very focused on kink and particular fantasies without necessarily exploring the more sensual or emotional aspects of their sexuality. For me, bringing those elements together, spirituality, sensuality and sexuality, is fundamental to my work.

How would you define your approach compared with other Tantra practitioners?

I don’t know many people who work quite like I do, but clients have told me that what makes my approach different is the authenticity of the ritual. I see every aspect of the session as meaningful.

I don’t offer sessions shorter than two and a half hours because, for me, a proper tantric massage needs time. I don’t believe the kind of experience I want to create can be rushed into an hour.

It’s all about the details, from the undressing ceremony to sitting together in a tantric posture called ‘yum‘, which allows us to connect through the heart as we begin to activate sexual energy through breath, sound and movement.

I’ve carefully curated my sessions to create a journey, allowing people to experience what I see as a fuller expression of Tantra.

I also cleanse my energy beforehand and work with rose quartz and heart-centred practices. I see my body as part of the healing space I create during a session.

I often feel deeply nourished after a session, as though we’ve spent those hours together in a kind of vortex.

At the same time, I need time to rest and integrate the experience because I feel that I’m working with something much deeper than the physical body.

What are some of the most interesting things you’ve learnt on this journey?

One of the biggest things I’ve learnt is that pleasure doesn’t necessarily have to depend on the person you’re sharing it with.

I receive yoni massages myself because I love the experience of receiving that level of care and attention. For me, it’s not about the practitioner, it’s about my own connection to pleasure. I feel that I’ve learnt to source pleasure from within myself. I’m the empress of my Yoni Kingdom!

I think sometimes people get stuck in sex because they become so focused on the other person. When we’re constantly thinking about our partner, we can lose touch with our own experience.

I remember someone telling me that he’d struggled to become aroused during a tantric massage because he wasn’t attracted to the practitioner. To me, that raised an interesting question about how much we rely on attraction to another person, rather than our own capacity to experience sensation and pleasure.

I’ve also noticed how normalised it is in society to speak about sex and women in crude or degrading ways, while conversations about sexuality as something nourishing, loving and positive can still feel quite unusual.

What is your mission?

Mine is a very simple one: to be in service to love.

I believe a lot of men are carrying emotional pain, and many haven’t been given the space or encouragement to connect with their feelings. When they experience stress or trauma, they may close themselves off emotionally.

Part of my mission is to help men reconnect with their hearts and become more present with themselves and others. I genuinely believe this can transform relationships.

I also feel that men and women are very polarised from one another today. Women are understandably frustrated by toxic masculinity, but men don’t always know how to respond to that anger.

I think compassion and education are really important. We need to show that masculinity itself can still be appreciated, while also encouraging healthier ways of expressing it. Otherwise, some men can end up feeling emasculated and unsure of how to navigate relationships.

What is the most challenging thing about what you do?

I think maintaining my boundaries is the most challenging part of my work, but it’s also something this practice has taught me to become much stronger at.

There can be a lot of sexual energy moving between two people during a session, and sometimes a client may express a desire to have sex.

In those moments, I have to communicate my boundaries clearly, but I also want to do that without making someone feel ashamed of their sexuality.

Rather than shutting them down, I might say something like, ‘Thank you for expressing your desire, but that’s not what this session is about. We can have a conversation afterwards.’

It’s about creating an environment where desire can be acknowledged without the boundaries of the session being crossed.

What do you think about sex and sensuality in society today?

I think there’s a great deal of objectification surrounding sexuality, which I find deeply unhealthy. Pornography, for example, often presents women and sexual intimacy in a very particular way, and I worry about how that shapes people’s expectations of real-life intimacy.

I’d love to see the sex industry move towards more varied and conscious representations of sexuality, rather than relying so heavily on what it assumes men want.

I think the world is far more sexual than it is sensual today. Sensuality is so much richer and more multidimensional. It’s about engaging all the senses, not just looking at a body. It’s about the soul, too.

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