calliyote

I am a coyote, a trans woman, a dominatrix, and a kinkster with more than a decade of experience on both sides of the slash. I love helping people discover more about themselves through kink. I am of the belief that kink is the ideal arena in which to explore things like identity, power, desire, and more. After all, kink is where I first discovered myself, and where I continue to learn more about myself every day. My transition and my other identity explorations (I am Holland's only therian dominatrix) have given me an intimate understanding of how what happens within a scene can translate to the world outside the dungeon. For me, it was a series of lightbulb moments: "Oh, I think this [pet play, gender play, etc] is speaking to something much deeper in me. I think I need to understand what that 'something' is." Play can be affirming in so many ways, and I am committed to all my play being an affirmation of who you are, who you want to be, and who you're becoming. I believe strongly in RACK—Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. I recognize that some of the things that I enjoy, both as a sub and as a dom, like heavy impact and breathplay, are risky. The important thing is recognizing your own personal risk tolerance and how it fits into the play or lifestyle that you want. My risk profile has shifted over the years, and I have learned how to understand and talk about risk in a way that is non-judgemental and safe. Part of my risk management is knowledge. I never go into play thinking that I will learn a technique as I go. It is very important to me that I know what I am doing before I get into the room, in order to keep both (or all) of us safe. For that reason, my experience in impact, breathplay, hypnosis, predicament bondage, and other arenas is an invaluable asset. I really love what I do, and I would love to share my passions with you.