Somatic Sexology for Kink & BDSM (aka Kinky Somatics)
Kink and BDSM can open up all sorts of possibilities for exploring ourselves, our bodies, gender, pleasure, desire and the ways we relate to one another.
Our Somatic Sexology sessions offer a body-based, curiosity-driven and expansive inquiry into your kinky interests, fantasies and support in navigating real-life experiences. There's room to explore how kink intersects with gender, neurodivergence, and the ways we experience our bodies and sexuality. We can get curious about what draws us to particular dynamics and experiences, what drives our fantasies and erotic interests, and deepen our understanding of kink and the many ways it can show up in our lives.
This might take us into core erotic themes, sensation, anticipation, intensity, power, control, surrender, vulnerability, play, and the many ways pleasure and discomfort can meet.
A big part of this work is cultivating embodied agency — developing our capacity to notice, name, value and communicate what's happening for us, moment by moment. Our sessions centre consent, boundaries, asking for what we need, communicating our desires and limits, and finding more ease in navigating these conversations with others. Frameworks such as the Wheel of Consent can offer useful ways of understanding our own choices and patterns.
There's also space for conversations around sexual health, harm reduction, safer practices and making informed choices that support the kinds of experiences and connections you wish to have.
For seasoned kink practitioners wanting to explore further, complete newbies, and curious creatures alike.
How it works
- 1Once you click I am interested, Nic ( Queerly Becoming) will be notified by email
- 2They will then contact you to arrange a date and time
- 3Please email us at contact@sensuali.com if you have any questions or issues with your booking
- ✦Enjoy your experience!
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Neuroqueer Intimacy, Pleasure & Relating (Somatic Sexology)
Our neuroexpansive ways of sensing, processing, communicating and relating shape so much of how we experience ourselves, intimacy, pleasure and connection — with ourselves and with others.For many of us, moving through life without understanding our neurodivergence can leave a trail of confusion, shame and a sense of being somehow too much, not enough, or simply broken. Burnouts, changing capacities, navigating relationships, and making sense of shifts in intimacy, sex and connection as we begin to better understand our neurodivergence can all become part of this journey.Our sessions invite us to tend to our neuroqueer experiences in ways that make room for different ways of experiencing intimacy, pleasure and relationships. Somatic Sexology brings a body-based approach to exploring our needs and limits, and moving towards what supports us in feeling more at home in ourselves and in our connections with others.We might explore sensory needs, arousal, (un)masking, desire, boundaries, communication, understanding nervous system and capacity, the sometimes-brave vulnerability of asking for what we need, and more.Nothing to prove, no diagnosis needed. Self-diagnosed, questioning and formally diagnosed folx are all welcome.
Free Intro Call
Hi wonderful folx,Here's a little note on intro calls — some practicalities and mostly tending to our needs as we start working together. A little about what to expect, ways to approach the call, and making room for our different needs along the way.---It's been years of online trainings, work and loads of first calls — and I can still find them low-key terrifying. Thanks fuck I'm now mostly in spaces where individual needs come to the forefront, and one of my core priorities is doing the same for my clients.Getting into unknown territory can come with all kinds of feels. Exciting, overwhelming, anything in between. There might be uncertainty about where to start or what to say. And if we don't know each other yet, it also involves reaching out to someone new. (Hi! )I'd love for this process to feel as accessible and low-pressure as possible.Tending to our neuroqueer needs is making room for different ways we move, communicate, exist and express ourselves in this world.Scattered thoughts are welcome. So are detailed descriptions, notes, "too many" questions, pauses, awkwardness, feelings, speaking a lot or speaking little. Same goes for eye contact, body language, everything really.Our intro call is a chance to get a feel for how we might work together, bring your questions, and share your hopes, needs and curiosities. No need to have it all figured out beforehand. prove anything. be a certain way.I invite you to radically tend to your own comfort - and if there's anything that could support that, let me know x And hey, if messaging feels easier than a call, that's welcome as well.*** Some practical info:-- we have up to 30 minutes together. we can follow the intake form for a little structure — or not.-- bring your questions to the call, or send them beforehand.-- in your initial message, you can include:how you'd like to be addressed + your pronounsyour availabilityoptionally, what brings you hereNothing specific needs to be said. share as much or as little as you'd like xmuch much love,Nic
Navigating Gender-Expansive Bodies (Somatic Sexology)
Our bodies, genders and ways of experiencing ourselves are wonderfully diverse — and our relationships with them can be just as complex, fluid and ever-changing.Through Somatic Sexology, we can explore what it means to inhabit and relate to your body on your own terms. This might include navigating dysphoria, reconnecting with your body during or after transition, exploring gender and self-expression, or finding new ways of experiencing particular body parts, sensation and pleasure.We might bring curiosity to what feels affirming, what feels challenging, and what else might be possible beyond the expectations and stories we've learned about our bodies.There's no one right way to experience or inhabit a gender-expansive body. This work is about making room for your own ways of being, sensing and becoming.
Somatic Sexology - individual session
Sexological Bodywork is an educational, client-led, trauma-informed and body-based modality that supports clients in reconnecting with their body, sexuality, eroticism & pleasure through embodied explorations.A core part of Sexological Bodywork is interoception — tuning into the subtle (or downright juicy) signals of your own body. It's noticing your breath, heartbeat, tension, arousal, and all the little sparks of sensation that bubble up in the moment. By leaning into this inner awareness, we can better understand our desires and boundaries, connect feelings with bodily states, and discover what supports us in reclaiming joy, safety, aliveness, pleasure, and a deeper sense of our (queer) belonging.Queer folx arrive here carrying all sorts of things: questions, curiosities, desires, challenges, transitions, and quiet longings for something to feel a little different in how we relate to ourselves, our bodies, eroticism, gender, neuro-expansiveness, intimacy, and one another.Sometimes there’s support needed for something specific. Sometimes there’s curiosity about what else might be possible. And sometimes it’s simply a search for the kind of queer-centred, pleasure-positive sex education that should have been available all along.Our work together might include talk-based coaching and education, somatic (body-centred) practices, self-touch and one-way touch — from practitioner to client — in any combination that's best suited to your needs.The sessions are client-led and choice-centred, empowering your embodied agency. This work prioritizes cultivating your capacity to notice, name, value and communicate what's happening for you, moment by moment.Some areas we might explore together:Gender, sexuality and self-expressionReconnecting with your body and pleasure during or after transition, or periods of disconnectionEmbodied unmasking, presence, authenticity and connectionQueering sex, pleasure and the ways we relate to ourselves and othersDesires, boundaries, fantasies and communicationNervous system regulation, safety and pleasureGenital anatomy education and scar tissue remediationDisability, chronic illness and sexualityNeurodivergence and intimacyShame, self-acceptance, porn and masturbationSafer and more fulfilling hookups, sexual health and informed choice🍓contact and bookings:https://queerlybecoming.wixsite.com/sexological-bodywork/contact-bookings
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Somatic Sexology for Kink & BDSM (aka Kinky Somatics)
- Somatic Sexology for Kink & BDSM - Single Session90 min · Siding Scale: 75€ - 120€ €90
- Somatic Sexology for Kink & BDSM - 5 Sessions79 min · Sliding Scale: 350€ - 550€ €425
- Somatic Sexology for Kink & BDSM - 10 Sessions90 min · Sliding Scale: 700€ - 1100€ €800
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